i have been going out with a man who i thought would be my future husband coz i love him.... sometime last year he confessed to me he had a 1 night stand after i found a used condom in his house...we talked about it and he promised he would never do it again and that he loves me. i forgave him but since i was now catious i started snooping by reading his mail....yesterday i discovered mail from his classmate (he is doing his mba) that was very flirtatious and suggestive and definately more than just friends and decided to ask him.....he told me the lady is the one following him and i should even ask her what he talks to her about me...he was very apologetic....am now confused should i forgive him again or is this the point i have to move on.....please advice i really need it.
2006-07-23 21:31:02 · 9 answers · asked by Louisa W 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
once a cheater always a cheater..... my husband cheated on me the first month we were married. He tried to lie about it and this and that. It was with his ex. We were married, and I was unable to move to his location because I wanted my daughter to finish up the last few months of school in her school. We saw each other every week and on weekends. I would go down during the week to see him if my daughter had a day off from school or he would come visit us. I was down there one time and saw oil of olay bath stuff in the tub, thought nothing of it, thought he used it. Next time I came back there was a huge wade of pitch black hair in the trash can, womens hair and a poney tail holder near his bed and the oil of olay stuff was gone. So I lost it and said who yo ******* around with? He said no one, my ex needed a place to stay for a few days and I let her stay here on the couch. And I am like oh really, and did you tell her you were now married. and he would not answer. So I bugged him cause I knew he was lieing finally he said ok here is the truth. I never ****** her, but she gave me a ********. So I never had sex with her. Sorta like Bill Clinton. Well he cheated again. So the the divorce papers were filed 31 days after we were married. once a cheater always a cheater. You need to leave him. Do you want to spend the rest of you life snooping around and being suspicious of his every move. sooner or later he will leave you because of your insecurties and your lack of trust. In which you have every right to have. But he will get fed up with you hounding him about this and that and will leave you. So you best dump him before he dumps you. A person can not be happy when they are always wondering and waiting and spending all their time spying to see if they are being cheated it It takes over their life and nothing else matters but knowing what your partners every move is. Of course he said he is sorry. If he was sorry he never would have cheated in the first place. Move on find a new man and be happy. You can do much better. Better to leave now then get married and find out he is still cheating.
2006-07-23 21:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. You forgave him once, that's enough. Obviously, if he did it again, it doesn't matter how many times you forgive him, he's going to keep screwing around. Now you deserve better. It'll be hard but you can do it if you stay strong!
2006-07-23 21:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by Miss. Bliss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry hunny hes not going to change hes just going to hurt you again and again tell him you are not going to be treated like this any more mr right will be waiting for you somewhere and you wont have to feel like second best he will give you all the loving and affection you need to be happy good luck
2006-07-23 21:37:29 · answer #3 · answered by private 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid off him you shouldnt have took him back in the first place it makes him feel like he owns you i mean my girl did it to me she kept taken me back even though she knew it was wrong. it just shouldnt be that way or you can take him back and cheet on him to show him how it feels
2006-07-23 21:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by gholud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No question about it. Dumb him. You suffered today, you'll suffer in the future
2006-07-23 21:34:56 · answer #5 · answered by Ben 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should cheat on him or act like it with the help of a friend, let him find out and then LEAVE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-23 21:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM HE DID TWICE HE WILL DO IT AGIN GET OUT OF THERE BEFORE U GET EVEN MORE HURT
2006-07-23 21:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"First time shame on him, second time shame on you."
Should have left him the first time, You can do better.
2006-07-23 21:36:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm,. hell no
2006-07-23 21:38:11 · answer #9 · answered by showtimegk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋