i have always wanted to be a girl and have dressed up alot. why cant i become normal and shake this feeling. also i love to wear diapers can not break this no matter how hard i try. this stems back to when i was a child and has always been a part of me any ideals on how to deal with this prob??? am i a tearable person???
2006-07-23 21:25:26 · 10 answers · asked by david p 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I have a friend who is going through the exact same thing but I believe is farther along than you are.
He has always wanted to be female from as long back as he can remember and he is also about your age. He also went with wearing diapers 24 / 7 to the point that he was totally incontinent and dependant on the diapers.
He went to a psycologist and has worked through the diaper issue to the point he has be "re-potty trained" and is now no longer wearing diapers. I will say though that he admits to missing them and under the right circumstances would probably wear them again, but they conflict with his current plans so he is staying away from them with the help of the psycologist.
He is pursueing becoming a physical (as well as psycological) female. He dresses the part whenever possible, he takes hormones and has started to develop breasts. Mentally he is a female and says he always will be. He is definitely going to follow through when he can with the operation to change gender.
The only thing holding him back right now is the fact that he is married and has kids. The wife is not agreeable with his plans so he is having difficulties on that front.
He has the blessings of his psycologist to go through with the process, but the last step prior to the operation is to live as a woman 100% of the time for one year. If he does that and still feels that that is what he wants, then the next step will be surgery.
My telling you all this is for two reasons. The first is to let you know, you aren't alone and that you aren't a terrible person at all. This man is one of the most loving, caring and warmest people that I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. Secondly, you definitley should connect up with a psycologist that is experienced in this kind of emotional conflict. You will be taken through the whole series of discussion as to why you feel this way and will either be helped out of the situation or helped to deal with it properly.
I wish you luck, and the fact that you even asked this question tells me that you too are a caring person. Take care.
2006-07-24 13:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by wetsaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi David,
Everyone has fetishes so don't feel ashamed of it - most people just keep them hidden. You should feel very proud of yourself for taking this first step to sort things out. You are realising that this isn't what society considers 'normal' and you want to change.
Being a psychologist myself I would recommend that you seek a therapist who can help you through these problems. You're right when you say that these thoughts come from childhood and no you're certainly not a terrible person. I admire the fact that you're coming forward.
Seek help and work your way through these problems. You'll do it. :-)
Stu :-)
2006-07-23 21:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by Stu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from the phsychologist - he'll tell you you are nuts!
I wouldn't mind being a girl, but then I don't want to be a tranny either. For me its easy to want to be a girl because I'm a gay man so sometimes one thinks it would all just be easier to be a girl. I also wouldn't mind being bi (as a man or a woman), but I'm not. I think I'd just hate to think I'm missing out on anything, but I'm not very committed to trying...
Just get yourself to being a way you can feel comfortable around other people, and be yourself.
2006-07-23 22:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fell bad I like wearing diapers to. It's ok as fas as the girl thing i don't know what to tell you. But anyway just have fun dressing like a girl in a diaper!! And no you aint a bad persion you just have a fetish and that's it. Be your self no matter what others think. Because it's your live not theirs!! Fun in wet diapers from a REAL Nutcase!!!""NUT'S"""..PS ...did i win...did i win....did i win???
2006-07-24 03:26:31 · answer #4 · answered by dl200558 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to have these feelings. At first recognize that you have these feelings and then pursue other options like counselling and therapy. It is nothing to be ashamed about. Truly, you need to decide what you want to do about your gender. About your fetish if you can fulfill these in a safe way and private way then it may lessen your stress. Most of all treat yourself with the utmost respect and in times have fun!!!
2006-07-23 22:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by barry a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by technique of your publish, i assume that you've a real fetish and are not a pedophile. With that assumption firmly in position, first of all i do not imagine that you're ill or twisted or perhaps strange, yet I do imagine you ought to to resign putting unfavorable judgement on something it is not risky to your self or others by any means. focusing on eliminating your fetish is fairly a lot a similar as focusing on your fetish. both innovations that's continuously contained in the leading edge of your innovations. you do not say no matter if you wish wearing diapers or seeing them on others, notwithstanding it ought to probable be helpful that you'll actual seem interior and perceive what precisely that's about the diaper fetish that turns you on a lot. Is it the safe practices of feeling like slightly one and having someone thoroughly look after you? Is it providing that for yet another? Is it the sensation of being naughty and messing them? when you've what the genuine allure is for you spoke of, you are able to search for to satisfy those needs in innovations except with diapers, if a threat. you are able to stumble on assembly those with similar fetishes - i'm effective that you'll stumble on discussion communities on-line dedicated to diaper love. Or, you may also keep your fetish deepest for your self and stumble on having relationships that do not include that till you stumble on a loving, accepting important different with whom you are able to percentage your fantasies and fetishes. Who is widely used with, perchance you may locate your appropriate diaper playmate? i comprehend that i did not extremely supply guidelines on a thanks to do away including your fetish, notwithstanding that's part of your "hardwiring" in case you'll, and accepting and loving your self for who you're is assistance to electrify authentic replace from interior somewhat that faking it for something of your existence.
2016-10-15 09:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u need a great psycologist for the diaper fedish and a great cosmetic sugeon for the gender change
2006-07-23 21:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by take a cleavland steamer on his 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-26 04:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by ogpeanut6 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a gay that why you like to be a girl.
2006-07-23 21:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by margie38us j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ME TOO!!!
2006-07-23 21:27:59 · answer #10 · answered by Marissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋