I have a brother who i KNOW is gay. He has acts like it, and ALL the signs are there!! I just have this thing, "homophobia" or something. My bro is younger than me. He usually looks up to me, but it totally disgusts me to know that he is a homosexual. Not that i am against gay ppl, cuz i have lots of gay friends.they are cool. So....what to do is the question????....
2006-07-23 21:25:20 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all it is your problem and not his. Love him for what he is and respect his choices. He is your brother and his sexual preferences should not be a guide to whether he is worthy of anything to do with your relationship. Maybe, you need to attend some groups that deal with families who can not except homosexuality.
2006-07-23 21:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by jodie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, apparently you've got yourself completely wrong. You are against gay people. If you can't deal with having a gay person who's very close to you, family in this case, then you have a problem with them. I don't care if you're prejudiced, just don't try to lie to yourself or others about it.
By the way, there's only one thing that all gay guys have in common: they like guys and want to have sex with them. Beyond that, who knows. Forget about the signs, until you know something about that requirement, you don't KNOW anything.
Why is this disgusting to you anyways? Are you a Christian? Did they just program you that well? When it comes down to it, what does it really matter? He likes half of the population and you like half of the population. If he's gay, you just both happen to like the same half. Think of it as a common interest.
I have to respect you for coming out and confronting this problem, and that's really the first step. Beyond this, you just need to think through this on your own. Are you really willing to arbitrarily hate an entire population over one aspect of their personality? You said you have some gay friends. Talk to one of them about it. Homophobia's something they'd see all the time, and I'm sure they'd be more than willing to talk to you about it.
2006-07-23 21:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by Phil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and count your blessings. You say you have lots of gay friends and thats ok but not for your brother. Do you think you can disgust him into being straight...do chickens have lips??? No!!!
Why not talk with your gay friends and take your brother along to an event where he can meet with them and trust that your gay friends will be mature enough to advise you about how to deal with it.
Are you sure he is gay? Have you asked this boy who looks up to you.
If it is true, my experience is that
a: he has been hurt sometime in his past,
b: God made him that way so you could deal with your double standard.
Either way you can be his friend or another nail in a life full of trashing and prejudice.
Love him anyway
2006-07-23 21:41:22 · answer #3 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it is your younger brother you would feel that way, I mean you say you have gay friends...and they dont bother you. That doesnt mean you have "homophobia", it just seems you are uncomfortable with the fact that your brother is gay. I would feel the same way to if i was in that situation. I know its kinda hard maybe to get what I'm saying, but maybe sometime in life you would be able to deal with it.
2006-07-23 21:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do people such as you shop blaming Obama in my opinion for issues he had not something to do with? The AP subject grew to become into brought about via the Justice Dept. The IRS element handed off in Cinncinnati. You seem to think of he's a Messiah who's all-powerful.
2016-11-02 21:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell me. What do we gay people act like?
If he is gay, get over it.
The only thing that defines someone as being homosexual is that they have sex exclusively (or almost exclusively) with memebers of their own gender. Tell you, what would really disgust you if he was the type that is like the sleasy straight man who is overweight, doesn't wash, and smells like (you know what) and has a personallity to match - there are gays like this you know!
Open your eyes B.
2006-07-23 22:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over your disgust before you lose your relationship with your brother forever. Why are you cool when your friends are gay, but "disgusted" when it's your brother? You have the issues here, not him.
2006-07-23 21:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by Miss. Bliss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are contradicting yourself. You have homophobia but you have gay friends and they are cool. Just live with it. Ask him for fashion and makeup advice. You may consider going shoe shopping with him. If that works out, go out with him to pick up dudes.
2006-07-23 21:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by Brandon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
weigh it out. Is your phobia more important to you than your brother. If yes than you know what to do...if it's a no, then you need to take some extra time to try to learn more about homosexuallity so you understand your brother better...ask your friends. He is already being discriminated and punished for that by people and media don't be one of them. He needs you. You make the decision.
2006-07-23 21:31:28 · answer #9 · answered by You're giving it all away! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have gay friends, that means your not homophobic.the fact that u think that your bro is gay is probably just in your imagination. if u want to clear your thoughts just talk to him it will be good for u,& the relatinoship u have with him
2006-07-23 21:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by nya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋