Why does it seem more soccially un acceptable when a man stays at home with no career, people think there is somthing wrong with you, why is that?
2006-07-23 21:12:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm a stay at home Dad, and it's not easy, either to do the housework which society has taught us is women's work, or to get looked at strange by other men who are out therer slogging away.
Of course, there are still "manly" things a stay at home Dad can do, like home repair, gardening, being a great chef, going hunting, or fishing with the kids. One great advantage of being a stay at home dad is the father can teach his children all sorts of things that many dads working outside the house don't have time for.
2006-07-31 07:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand why a dad would be a stay-at-home dad while leaving the mom to work. I don't judge them but moms are meant to be with their children or they wouldn't be the ones enduring child birth. Children are naturally more attached to their mother from birth. Now some mothers ruin that, but I'm just saying originally that's how it's supposed to be. Most of the time men can make more money which is why the woman will stay at home. It's better for one parent to stay at home if possible but unless he's cooking, cleaning, and doing everything a stay-at-home mom does then I wouldn't agree to it.
2006-07-27 15:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by Sadie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. My husband is a stay-at-home dad and noone understands why I work and he doesn't. The first reason is I have more experience than him and can make more money. Another reason he doesn't work and I do is we don't want to put our daughter in a daycare facility. We don't trust other people to take care of our daughter. I think that it is more socially unacceptable for the mand to stay at home because most people are old-fashioned and think that the woman is the one that is supposed to stay at home and raise the kids while the man brings home the bacon!
2006-07-23 21:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why it is more unacceptable, but it should not be. My husband was a stay at home dad for two years after our youngest was born. I was in a place in my career that was finally taking off and his career had stale mated. We decided that it would be in the family's best interest for him to stay at home. HE DID A GREAT JOB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :) Now we have switched and I'm stay at home mom while he has managed to fast trak his career and is doing very well! Needless to say, I feel very fortunate to have such a wonderful husband and father to my children. The men that are like you and others put an end to every dad being a deadbeat stereotype! Keep at it!!!
2006-07-23 23:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by diannabishop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with a stay-at-home dad IF he does the equivalent what a stay-at-home mom would do. My husband spent a year off of work 6 years ago to care for the youngest child because daycare rates were eating us alive! He cooked and cleaned and did laundry, so I had no problem with it. But, after a year of that, he couldn't take it anymore...he HAD to work.
Now, we're both working and paying $450/month in child care, but neither of us want to quit working, so we're doing what we have to do.
2006-07-24 02:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my hubby is home with the kids and in school. He feels bad that I am supporting us all. He just got a job after five years and he feels like he's a man now. Society put expectations on people. I think he's a great Dad but he always said he feels less of a man because he's not working. I don't understand, but... those are his feelings.
2006-07-30 05:05:00 · answer #6 · answered by beanietara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally it was always the male who was the "hunter/gatherer" the female traditionally was the "nurturer and kept the fire going". In the past 30 years those roles have been changing, with more and more women entering the work place and more and more men willing to give up their places of work outside the home to become the "nurturers" rather than hunter/gatherers. It will take awhile for society to accept these changes, just like it took society to accept women in the work place.
2006-07-30 00:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband just got out the military, and it was by choice for him to be a stay at home dad. he was always so busy with work, that he never had a chance to be around the kids. These last couple months have been great for all of us!
-Angela
http://www.gleamingskin.myarbonne.com
2006-07-30 09:13:52 · answer #8 · answered by Biancoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our society is changing and roles are reversing even if we do not want to.As long as the houseband set-up is okay with the family, there is nothing wrong. Who are we to dictate what should happen in every household. Just hope that these dads are as good as the moms in taking care of everything. Right on!
2006-07-31 05:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find myself defending my husband often, people ask, "what does your husband to?" and I say "he is a stay at home dad" and they ALWAYS ask, does he cook? clean? laundry? etc. OF COURSE, that is what a stay at home parent is supposed to do. He works more than I, his days are longer, and the pay sucks! But he says he loves it and the benefits are awesome. By the way, we have four boys! we cant pay anyone enough to endure that lol!
2006-07-28 18:36:46 · answer #10 · answered by AGgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋