I think the guy I like used to Like me, but i didnt like him like that. Now i like HIM, but he seems totally uniterested. please help!!!!
2006-07-23 20:58:55 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find a time that you can strike up a conversation with the guy.
For instance, if he has the same class as you, or watches the same show, you could talk about that. Talk to him about something that you both like. Make a funny joke to get him to laugh.
Don't go way over the top by trying to flirt. You just may end up looking desperate and scare the guy. You don't have to wave a flag with his name on it to get him to notice you.
Try to look really cute around him--however, keep in mind that most guys like casual,natural girls that look like they didn't spend a lot of time on themselves. Wear clothes that are appropriate to the situation (avoid showing way too much skin).If you are overdressed you will look and feel uncomfortable. Wear natural makeup, a little lipgloss,mascara and blusher are often enough.
Flash your best million dollar smile for him.
Don't push him into liking you. Let him make his own decision.
Chances are if he sees that you are comfortable with yourself, he'll feel at ease.
Be yourself - whether you're goofy, silly, crazy, or whatever.
They will know if you are being fake. If the guy doesn't like you for who you truly are, then he probably isn't worth it.
Ask around about who his ex-girlfriends are. Take a look at them, or talk to them, and see if you notice something that they all have in common, for example, they all have straight hair which they wear down, or they all play sports. This could be why he liked them, if they all share the same thing.If its something small like hair, maybe you could do your hair like his exes, but don't change something drastically just for him.
Don't be afraid to show off a little in front of him, but don't show off too much, or you will seem conceited. Guys appreciate confidence.
Try to let him take the lead. Take this time to decide if you really like him and let them realize this is what you are doing. It will make them step up their game.
Don't be too hard on yourself. If he is not coming around, then let it go. Maybe he will find interest later. If not, it's not the end of the world.
If he looks like he might like you, ask him out. But be prepared to keep your cool if he says no. He'll probably respect you for it either way.
Don't play stupid mind games or send mixed signals.
Be nice and kind to the person. If they ask to borrow something, happily say yes. Also give compliments.
Tips
If you get really nervous every time you try to talk to the guy, practice what you'll say before hand. Just take a deep breath and relax. Keep the conversation casual. Remember that you don't have to start dressing differently and change your hair color to impress. You're fine just the way you are.
Don't back off him a lot or he will feel like you don't like him. In other words, don't be so shy!
Patience, honesty, and being yourself will always win over anyone you like (or anyone who likes you).
Don't be pushy or impatient. Good things come to those who wait.
Tell them what you think of them. Never ask how they feel about you. If they want you to know, they will show (or tell) you. This approach will prevent you from getting your feelings hurt.
If there is no sign of him being interested in you, that doesn't necessarily mean that he isn't interested. He could just be shy, or be a little frightened, especially if he hasn't dated anyone for a
long time.
Think how you would want someone to act if they liked you.
If you really like a guy and he doesn't like you or thinks you are annoying don't push him on liking you; start off by being friends and let it go from there.
If something bad happens to him, be there to listen to his problems.
Ask people what your best points are and highlight them! For example, if people say your eyes are really bright blue, exagerate them more by wearing a blue eyeshadow! Or if people say you have really nice legs, wear more skirts!
Don't be shy. Boys aren't gonna laugh at you or anything for taking these steps, so there's nothing to be afraid of.
Warnings
If he kisses you or does something you're not comfortable with, you could just hug him or you can tell him straight forward "I like you but I don't think I am ready for this kind of thing." If he likes you for you, he won't care and and he will respect your decision.
Don't bug him too much or he might feel like you are being a little too keen.
Don't confuse kindness with him liking you.
Don't pressure him, or push him to do something, he may not be ready.
Don't tell him you like him if you don't even know him.
Don't be clingy!
Don't stare. This is annoying as well as creepy after a while. Just give him your occasional glance, and if he happens to be looking back at you, give him nothing more that a sincere little smile and maybe even a wave. If you've done this a few times already and want to be a little bolder you can even wink at him. He'll get the hint.
2006-07-23 21:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well..u have to understand how a man thinks..
guys --me and several guys that i know at least-- always move on.
when we get rejected, we take the lesson, and move on.
up until the 1st two or three weeks after we get rejected, we might say "God hates me.."
but soon after that, we lift our chin and say, "she apparently not the luckiest girl on earth." "so i gotta move on, find the right girl.. the luckiest girl on earth, because she gonna be loved everlastingly.. and she will be WAY BETTER than all the girls I've met before"
yes, we guys are prideful morons :) but that's not my point.
my point is: (maybe) the guy you like is alreadygetting over you (or trying to get over you) , and he is already looking for another, BETTER girl.
So... if you want him to like you.. hmmm..
be around him (make sure he notices you and knows that the "door" is not closed yet).. but be sure that he is not getting annoyed when u are around
and make sure that he can find "the better girl that he is looking for" in you!
and oh yeah: go smooth.. but also a bit straight forward: after a while, just ask him how he fell about you.
if the answer is negative.. well maybe he isn't the luckiest boy on earth :)
2006-07-23 23:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by astaman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! lol! I have this exact same problem at school, I always noticed this guy staring at me, or observing me, lol I didnt like it, and well didnt like him very much (I may have shot a few nasty looks at him, and I'm SORRY!), I had my eyes on another guy, well it turned out that I lost interest in the guy that I had my eyes set on, and started to like the other (he is very attractive, why didnt I see that before, Oh WHY!) . But the only problem is he is uninterested in me now!!! Even when I look at him which normally he would look back he now ignores me, like I'm not freakin there, oh god! waa! Oh well
:(
I liked something that never really existed :(
2006-07-23 21:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by Scarlett H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably just thinks that you are a tease and not into him. Try to be around him more and now you have to show him more that you like him. What I would do first though, find out if he liked you in a first place before you go through all the trouble.
2006-07-23 21:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Donna M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stand up, when he is around that is! Walk right up to him and tell him you like him like this, Tell him the whole story, don't lag on some tell him everything on your mind. I bet he will like the fact that you are being straight forward and honest with him, I know I would be!!!!!!! I LOVE my girlfriend so so much I can't even explain my feelings. All I can say to help you is, act as if this was your last day on earth and you only have one change, make this chance worth it, ok?
Hope all goes well with you
2006-07-23 21:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jeremy York 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Well dear.. Its very normal like ur case. Simply remembr 1 rule of love.. Let ur luv free, if it comes back it was meant for u, if it does not come back it never was meant for u. But if u r really damn serious bout this guy now, do talk to him, tell him ur feelings, tell him frankly y u didnt like him first. or else slowly 1st develop good & deep friendship with him. & then express ur feelings. neway if u have ne further problem or need any help pls feel free to contact me at stylez.kool@gmail.com
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2006-07-23 21:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by $tYLeZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. Maybe flat out tell him how you're feeling & ask him if he'd like to go out. That way, you don't waste a lot of time trying different 'round about things & wondering. This way, you'll know for sure. He may still like you, but realized you didn't like him, so he just gave up. Asking is the only true way to find out. Good luck!
2006-07-23 21:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by Me in TN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Don't ever try to pretend any thing.
2. Be normal, don't show him you're interested.
3. Watch out some guys use this trick to attract ladies (They pretend to be interested in a lady at first and then they stop this thing)
2006-07-23 21:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring your friends along lyk a group hanguot 2gether, bt dnt give out the hints yet. start talking to him nd kip dat in mind that u shudnt make it obvious that u lyk him. if u dnt wanna do the ff, do as the others say then :) gud luck!
2006-07-23 21:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by blupyro_candy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing only flipped around. I told him I liked him and he was cool with it but he didn't like me. Then he liked me but I didn't like him but I gave him a chance now we are a couple. Just tell him and hopefully he'll give you a chance.
2006-07-23 21:05:21 · answer #10 · answered by frankiegirl1122 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try talking to him, and getting him to notice you.. But don't go all psycho either. Just be laid back.. and If he doesn't like you anymore, than you might just be better off moving on.
2006-07-23 21:00:50 · answer #11 · answered by Jessica Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋