Ok, so recently i met this girl in college and we've been seeing each other and hanging out for the past 4 months. 3 weeks ago i confessed to her about my feelings that i really like her and she said she likes me back., but she wants to stay single for now because she needs to learn to grow as a person. And i told her that I'd wait for her because she really is worth the wait, and i dont mind waiting. so a few weeks past and yesterday when i asked her to hang out, it was the first time she said i dont know. and then she said i dont wanna keep saying i dont know so i wanted to tell you that i feel awkward after we hang out because of the thought of me waiting for her makes her feel weird. So i asked her what she wanted to do about it and she said i dont know and that maybe we shouldnt hang out anymore. And every question i asked from then on is an "I dont know." And she later told me she felt that she can't open up her feelings to me and now i dont know what to do.
2006-07-23 19:26:46 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She also said that we cant have a "real true friendship" because I have feelings for her and im waiting for her. Can someone please go about telling me whats the best thing to do so I can save what her and I have now??? Thx!
Update... she just called me and we chatted on the fone for 30-40 minutes, but she sounded happy more than usual to talk to me, and when i asked what shes doing shes like im on the fone with u silly... and usually when we talk shes either listenin to music or reading a book or something.... oh and she messages me good night on aim everyday. . .
Update again... she called me again 3 days later and she said that i shouldn't hesistate to call her to talk to her..... and i told her that i wanted to give her space and time so that she could think things through and that ive been hanging out with other people lately to get my mind off it..... and she was just like OH!....
2 weeks past and i asked her to hang out and she accepted so... what does this meanandwheream
2006-07-23 19:26:50 · update #1
Sounds like you've elevated her to trophy status. By that I mean who she is as a person, and what kind of a partner she could really be to you, has taken a back seat to your decision that you need to acquire her. These situations rarely work out since relationships are hard enough when both people are excited about each other. I absolutely guarantee you that she is not the person you're imagining, and talking her into being with you puts you in a bad spot, and it will not feel like what you're imagining. You'd be far happier finding someone who is as excited about you as you are about them. Attitude is everything.
2006-07-23 19:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by Pepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems to have realized that she was crazy to start pushing you away. Or when she was saying " I don't know " all the time it was because she was seeing someone else and you didn't know about it. She may have had feelings for him like those you have for her. I would take things very slow with her. She may have been dump by the guy and your her re-bound guy. Don't jump each time she calls and keep just enough distant from her to see if it's real for her or not. You don't want to be the re-bound guy and then suddenly she's back to " I don't know" again. You might want to talk to her about her sudden change and tell her that your just a bit confused about her actions. She sounds to wishy washy to get your hopes up on.
2006-07-24 02:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whew, that was pretty thorough :-)
It sounds like you are doing okay with the wait-and-see approach. She seems to be signaling her interest so don't overdo it. Take your time and let her set the pace for now. Let her get comfortable with you. Don't avoid her or play games, just relax and see what happens. She knows how you feel. Let her learn to trust you. She'll see that you are not going to go off the deep end if you just relax and let the friendship develop.
Good luck!
2006-07-24 02:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by AK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really care about this girl, and you dont mind matching your schedule to hers, you should give her space when she wants it, hang out with her when she can. in the end, she'll see that you're a great person that she can lean on. girls love that.
2006-07-24 02:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by crazybutcute 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound to me at first ......like she wasnt intersted but she called you back maybe shes unsure how she feels just give her space let her call you ......cause sometiimes if you call (too much) it pushes a person away and they get less and less interested in you
2006-07-24 02:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by bonita_lita_chica80sj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋