I am a teenager and my dad has abused me for many years, physical and emostional. My dad is the most negative person in the world! I am truning like him. And i dont want to at all.!!!! How can i not.?
2006-07-23 19:22:34 · 35 answers · asked by Redtrack703 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell another adult.
2006-07-23 19:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, how old are you? If it's really bad I would first try getting help from social services if you're not moving out anytime soon. My mother was very emotionally abusive and I had those same worries about turning out just like her. I think the best way is to ALWAYS remember how it felt when your dad was being negative towards you. You will certainly have a lot of bottled up anger from enduring this for all those years so it's important to get rid of it somehow. It helps to talk to someone just to vent (if you can't see a psychiatrist), and also getting involved in sports or some kind of physical activity. When you're active and expending energy you feel better about yourself and are less likely to turn to anger so quickly. The key thing is to keep your self esteem up. Ppl who are angry and abusive have very low self esteems and take it out on the ppl around them.
2006-07-23 19:34:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears there are alot of people who do not understand how hard it is to not become the same way as a person like this. There is no need to go into it here because It's quite obvious you do know. You say nothing about your mother so I assume she is no help. I would say the first thing you need to do is find someone who believes you. Preferably an adult family member, Aunt, Grand mother, Adult sibling, etc. Someone you can move in with to get away from him. If there is no one, call family services. Family services is not my first choice because they may put you in a placement family who's just as bad. Then do get some counseling. It will help you tremendously.
2006-07-23 19:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by oldman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just realize how hurtful his actions are, and work toward being completely different. Realizing that it happened is the first step. You need to come to terms with what you've been through. Find some real friends who make you feel a real sense of self-worth. Counseling could help. Just talking to someone you can TRULY trust is good too. One of the reasons he does it is likely the fact that he has horrible self-esteem, and what he's done to you has left the same effect on you. Build your self-esteem. There are people out there who understand better than you think. Good luck!
2006-07-23 19:27:47 · answer #4 · answered by SomeoneUdunno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go directly to a child services worker, health and wellfair, or the police. No one deserves to be abused and you need to worry about you before you worry about your dad. I am a Foster Parent and a Pastors wife. If you need help go to someone you trust to take you there. Most of the time the child recognizing that they need help and getting it is the wake up call for the parents. You might be scared but you will only regret it if you do nothing.
2006-07-23 19:30:19 · answer #5 · answered by Tina W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh,
Get Away From Him,
Think About What Your Doing
Think About How You May Be Making People Feel
By Acting Like Your Dad.
Think.
2006-07-23 19:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by alyssa! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him now. You didn't mention your mom. If she is living with you then she is not doing her job to protect and give you every chance to thrive and succeed. Talk with a teacher, friend's parent, or grandparent(not his parents) but you should really call the police or child protective services so you can live without fear and being put down.You can overcome this if you stand up for yourself and are strong.Don't wait because you never know when he will go off the deep end and hurt you really bad. God bless you and I pray you will get help soon.
2006-07-23 19:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off tell your mom about all of it get her to get him to change and take controle of your amoshonse help your mom by setting a good egsampile for your dad and go out a lot more when your dad is home so you will feel bad less o reameber this the person that dose the hitting has a problem with there life and is taking it out on the rong person you will be fine just beleave
2006-07-23 19:29:35 · answer #8 · answered by medical junor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him as much as you can, i know after all this time this can be so difficult for you not to reflect on his behaviour...
Everytime you think you're turning like him...try to remember what all he'd done to you in the past and how it hurt you alot. If you remember the pain you had...think about other people around you...do you want them to suffer from the same pain? And it's you who cause them...
It's only making you feel worst about yourself...If you have some friends, go talk to them and if possible you can get help from a shrink...
2006-07-23 19:38:03 · answer #9 · answered by belle_chocolatiere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did not tell your age, you just said you are a teenager, teenage start at 13 and end at 19, see dear, if you are below 15, neglect all the things done by your dad, ask him not to do, but even if he dose, don't think o them, if you are over 15 years of age, come out of your house and earn your self for your lively hood, don't depend on him.
all the best
2006-07-23 19:29:24 · answer #10 · answered by Sudheendra Rayabhagi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away and stay away from abuse.
It will be difficult to leave the legacy behind but you must.
Read Bradshaw's book "Homecoming".
Heal yourself. Love yourself first and most.
List all the ways in which you are wonderful.
Keep in mind that life will be whatever you choose to make it so keep the good stuff and toss out the bad.
2006-07-23 20:33:30 · answer #11 · answered by blue_eyed_soccer_player 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋