How can a parent raise a teenager with dignity and respect, with out the teenager calling thier parents stupid
2006-07-23 18:24:00 · 9 answers · asked by manny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Like the other person said ,it starts form home. But.....the is hope.Well,I'm old fashion but i am a teenager so i should know a thing or two about this topic.Look,all you need to do is listen to them ,talk to them ,don't mistake though,there shouldn't be much room for negotiation like the other person said because they will see you as a push over,and you don't want that if you want their respect.What i say about listening is that sometimes we are not as naive as parents perceive us to be ,we can be smart about the choices we make ,and DON'T EVER COMPARE US TO OTHER KIDS GOOD ,OR BAD,EVER! teens hate that cuz they feel like you are stereotyping them and not really listening to them as different individuals they are.So,listen to your kids ,and always talk .
2006-07-23 18:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by melen t 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
All teenagers think their parent's values and actions are stupid. It's part of their process of separating from us. If they continued to love and respect us the way they did when they were nine, they would never become adults. HOWEVER, there is a respect issue here. Your children should not be calling you stupid any more than you should be calling them stupid. If that is happening, then a line has been crossed. and it should not be tolerated
Here's comforting news: My oldest is 23 and she was hell on wheels as a teen. She rejected every value we ever taught her. Now she is the first one to tell her younger siblings, age 17 and 16, that Mom and Dad are right and they should listen to us.
We teach our children our values, they ignore them as teens, and then as adults, if we were consistent, they pick them back up again.
2006-07-23 18:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by PDY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It starts at birth. You cannot teach a teenager respect. If I called my parent stupid, I would have been slapped across the floor and learned respect the hard way.
I am 43 yrs old and both of my parents are gone now, but they raised 7 very respectful children. I love them and miss then both very much.
2006-07-23 18:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to overdo it. The thing most teens hate is when a parent will try to get too involved with the idea that they will suddenly "connect". And keep in mind that being a teen in modern times is really hard. And I'm not talking about all those cliche "peer pressure" things you always hear about. High school is completely different than what adults went through. Kids like to cover up the amount of work they do in school. Be sympathetic but don't cave in to everything. Understand your kid but still be a parent. I'm 17, I know what it's like to be a kid pretty well. :)
2006-07-23 18:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL... Teenagers will always call their parents stupid... though it better be behind there back. My mom woud've beat me blind if I ever called her stupid in front of her. But the fact is teenagers will ALWAYS think they know more than their parents. It has always been that way. But if you are the parent, what you say goes... plain and simple. There souldn't be much room for negotiation in that area until they are older and are working to pay bills too. Good Luck to you.
2006-07-23 18:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by Brooklyn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the parents should have a hold on there kids how dose the teenager even have the guts to call there parents stupid
2006-07-23 19:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
coming from a teenager ... i would never call my parents stupid.. because i realize life is short.. i short appreciate them to the fullest... and sometimes i get mad and i say they are so stupid they wont leave me alone.. but in the end i realize they are only doing it because they care.. but i think for your kids to treat you with respect is to just raise them around respect and tell them everything you do is because you care.
2006-07-23 19:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello!I think that u r a parent and worried about your child.I am a 16 yr girl & I want my mother to listen to me,respect my ideas & thougts,not to ignore me when her closest friend(person) is with her,let me do things that i like very much,deal with me with respect not pride & talk to me as a friend.And i would like my father to be polite with me,listen to me,understand me & if I am right do as i want.Thats what I want my parents to be like.I hope that will help u alittle bit.Goodluck!
2006-07-23 21:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by Maxie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE TAKE THEM TO CHURCH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-23 18:37:45 · answer #9 · answered by tinkerbell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋