I'm resubmitting this question because I would like to recieve some responses from females this time. If you're a male and you haven't answered this question before, will you please do so?
There's this guy at my work whom I'm interested in. I'm into him mainly because he seems like a very nice, smart, hardworking guy. I'm quitting this job in about a month so I'm not worried about anything interferring with work. I know that he's single for sure, otherwise I wouldn't consider dating him. We've rarely spoken, but I believe he he may be interested in me too because of some signs he shows. For instance, he says hello to me in a nice soft way with a great looking smile, when we pass by each other I sometimes see him look back at me, he smiles and his eyes kind of light up when he sees me coming towards him, and he smiles at me a little longer than he does with other girls. However, these little signs don't fill me with enough confidence that he likes me.
2006-07-23 18:10:55 · 19 answers · asked by pureessence 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some of you may be thinking, "If he really likes you, he would've asked you out already." Well, this guy seems shy and a bit insecure and we rarely get a chance to talk. He seems like the type of guy who wouldn't want a girl to know that he likes her if he wasn't sure if she likes him, too. He just seems like he would be too shy to ask a girl out.
2006-07-23 18:11:13 · update #1
I don't know if I should consider making any moves on this guy because I'm not totally sure that he likes me. Normally if I like a guy, I would try to have conversations with him before making a move to get to know him better, to see if he likes me and to find out if we're compatible. But in this case, it's difficult because most of the time we have different work schedules. When we do work in the same hours, there's rarely an opportunity for us to talk because we work in different sections of the store that are far apart and obviously because we're too busy working.
2006-07-23 18:11:28 · update #2
I have a few questions:
What indications would tell me that this guy feels the same way I do about him, if he's a shy person and we rarely get a chance to talk?
Should I just stop worrying about having conversations with him at work and quit trying to find out if he likes me for sure because of our different schedules?
Should I let him know that I like him by telling him that I find him attractive and wait for him to make the first move or should I just approach him first and ask him out?
If I should make the first move, where, when, and how should I do it?
Can you tell me your age and when you started dating? Thanks!
2006-07-23 18:11:41 · update #3
46/m/TX I started dating when I was @ 16. If you are interested in a guy at work this is the best possible place to let him know you are interested in him. When yo see him smile at you smile back and say something attractive like "you look nice today." you will be surprised at how he reacts. If he is shy this will tell him that you don't dislike him without him letting his guard down. Then later after you guys exchange nice words. Ask him when he has a scheduled day off and say hey I got that day off. Want to do something together that day? The relatinship will bloom if you just let it.
2006-07-23 18:26:12 · answer #1 · answered by Teacher 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow. first, im male first time answerin this question. second, i started really dating when i was 16. now im 22. k now. just because ur quittin, doesnt mean u have to make drastic moves to show ur feelings. its not the end of the world =) make sure though, if ur leaving. since he's shy, ask him to go to lunch w/ u. if he says no or he too busy, then maybe he not that interested. but if he's willin to take the time, dats the best time to get to know each other and maybe ull see if u really like him or not. and go on from there k?
2006-07-23 18:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by JustiN CrediblE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a bit confused, but i think the best way is for you to make the first move. You can't depend on him for it, cuz you don't have a clue of what he's thinkng, except for those "little signs", right? After all, it is better than waiting and doing nothing, while you are expecting something between you two. The main essence of relationships is communication
2006-07-23 18:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by voice.from.above 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
28, 16. I am in the same situation. I haven't made a move because I wasn't sure he liked me. But I found out from a friend that he might like me, but won't date me because we work for the same company. When you quit your job, go see him and ask if he would like to go out. Maybe he's scared to loose his job right now or have people dish on him. Respect his space, no matter what you decide.
2006-07-23 18:21:13 · answer #4 · answered by neener68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I'm sorry if this doesn't help but it's one of my first questions anwering....
Well you said your quiting this job well since your quitting the job you probably won't see hiim as often. So if i were in your place i'd totally go for it...
At times it is hard to tell a guy you like him or even talk to him at times but if every girl acts like that then we'll all be single all you need is the confidence, and that confidence comes from inside.
but overall i think you should go for it like i said if it doesn't work out you won't see much of him.
2006-07-23 18:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just catch him at work one day and ask him out. Say that you never have time at work to actually talk to one another and would he like to get a coffee or something one day. Or another good way to go about it is have a few people from work get together after work one day.. invite him along.. this way it's not too intimate, but it still gives you a chance to talk one on one and find out a little more about eachother. It's like that friggin' Hillary Duff movie "don't let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game"... and I don't date... I freelance!
2006-07-23 18:20:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are infatuated with the idea of being with this guy, and not actually him in person. It seems you don't know him well enough to like him. Talk to him casually and get to know him before you make a move. Get his email or other contact if you are moving away from the same area, and meet in a non work environment.
2006-07-23 18:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can only try to ask him out nothing fancy just a coffee and if he says yes then you will have some one on one time to talk to him keep the conversation away from the job. you may get the feeling then if he likes you. what could it hurt see if he would like your phone Number.
2006-07-23 18:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what to do in a situation like this, so please listen to me. First, if he's shy, try to talk to him. Ask him if he wants to go out somewhere, just as friends. Actually, a pool hall is a really good place to start. Get to know some things about him, what he likes to do, what kind of things he likes/dislikes. If he is insecure, there really is nothing you can do about that, unless you start dating. try to get him to laugh. Please, let me know how things go between you two.
2006-07-23 18:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you describing me? I know you are. Well, the key is to make a subtle move. Go to a concert or a club with him. Grab his had, or put his hands around your waist. If he likes you, he'll keep holding, and start opening up to you afterwards. Shy guys have an advantage, they think. Alot. And if he does like you, he's not going to keep it back once he knows you like him.
2006-07-23 18:19:50 · answer #10 · answered by Shat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋