Should I hear what my ex-boyfriend has to say?

Question

I broke up with my bf about 2 weeks ago. He's been trying to get back with me since. I was debating it cuz he was being sweet, but once I kind of showed interest again he started acting like a jerk again, so I thought forget it. So our last phone call, he hung up on me, and we haven't talked for about a week. I've been ignoring his calls. My good friend told me he has been flirting with different girls every day at summer school, and he has a girlfriend as well! I saw on his myspace that he replaced my name with his new girlfriend's name. So yesterday he texted me and said "wat up baby" and so I told him I don't think your gf would appreciate you calling me that. And he denied having a girlfriend! So I told him it doesn't matter since I don't have to trust him anyway, and he got mad and I ignored him again. Today he called and I picked up and hung up. Is that really mean of me? He left a message and said it was ****** up for me to do that. Should I pick up and hear what he has to say?

Answer 1

Sure, listen to him. It doesn't mean you necessarily have to BELIEVE all of it, but just keep an open mind and don't let your guard down.

Maybe there will come a revelation once you hear what he has to say. And above all things remember your self respect. If he treats you like crap then you can tell him to go bungee of a cliff (while you cut the cord hehe... jk).

Always think of what you deserve... and do it honestly... don't be one of those people who treats others like crap but feel they should have their own religion where they're the god.

So think of what you deserve while you're listening to him. You might decide you deserve better.

Answer 2

Girl, these are games that all young guys play. And you are right on to be ignoring him and avoiding him. He's trying to play the field and have his cake too. Many guys love to have a sure thing so they always have a girl to run back to. Continue to deny him and make him look like the fool. Cause if you go for him, he will make you look like the fool.
I went through the same situation with my first boyfriend many moons ago. Now almost 15 years later and he just called me a week ago cause he still thought I would run back to him. Silly man. I'm getting married next month and when I told him, he tried nothing but to break things up cause he felt defeated once again. It's all about winning. And these guys will never change. Be strong and live happily single for awhile.

Answer 3

Actually, I'm a bit confused about how your bf treated you. It seems that he is not that serious abt his relationship with you if he is really flirting with other girls in your school, and worst having a new girlfriend! Now, what does he want from you? Is he trying to abuse you emotionally? By the way, maybe you should ask yourself first, do you still love him? If the answer is yes, well, i think you should give him a chance, answer his phone calls. But of course my dear you have to open your mind about what he "really" want from you. Don't you think he still in love with you despite of the stupid things he used to do which he knows will affect you? He doesn't think of you after he did that. You should think things over, before deciding a major decision. GOodluck!

Answer 4

I wouldn't bother with this jerk, and I would tell him next time he calls that if he calls again you will file a restraining order! These kind of guys can be dangerous, and he is playing with you.

I think you already know the answer to this, he is NOT worth it, let him go and find someone who will treat you right. I can tell you if my son ever treated a girl that way I would kick his as* and he knows it. He might be taller than me now but I am still bigger!

It makes me mad that parents are bringing their boys up to be such creeps..Whoever ends up with my son will be one lucky girl! Unfortunately he just went through the same kind of situation, but the problem was the girl. And she is a nutcase! Thank god they broke up. But it hurt him deeply.

But he did not let her pull him back in and she tried, so don't let this creepy guy pull you back in..Be the smarter one!

PS: NVgirl..all guys are NOT like that, but women tend to pick the wrong ones..we have to open our eyes and see that we do not have to be treated like crap buy a guy..

Answer 5

I wouldn't waste my time on him. He's obviously a player. I mean, if he's denying having a girlfriend, would you really want to give him another chance? Chances are if you 2 ever got back together he would treat you like he's treating his girlfriend of the moment. You definitely deserve better than him!

Answer 6

Move on you deserve someone better who respects you and doesnt treat you like that. If you have evidence that he has another girlfriend why bother with getting back with him. Tell him you are already over him.

Answer 7

NO NO NO!!! Not unless you want to be crapped on again! Leave this loser alone and don't answer any calls/messages from him. He'll get the point and leave you alone soon enough. You have to respect yourself, cause he certainly doesn't respect anyone...not even himself.

Answer 8

no girl dont pick up let that stupid *** guy get the hell out off your life 4 eva you desserve better so dont pick up the phone and try not to have any contact at all

Answer 9

hes the one whos being ****** up.
***** him...seriouslyy.

hes not worth it.

if he reallyy does have another gf.
but if he doesnt then maybe youu should just hear what he has to sayy....cause youu dont want to live wthh any regrets or what could have beens?

Answer 10

Sounds like you both need to grow up before you can have a relationship