i love my boyfriend and want to marry him like he wants but he will not be serious about getting a job what do i do how can i make him serious about getting the worst word in the dictionary J O B ????
2006-07-23 18:00:40 · 28 answers · asked by ask aly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you marry him, he will be smarter than you. You fell for it, hook, line and sinker. Go ahead and marry the dead beat, you deserve each other. You go to work so you can clothes, feed and shelter his sorry butt. A smart woman would have ditch him long time ago.
2006-07-23 18:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by nannygoat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey being lazy is just the easiest thing to do. Aparently he is able to eat and have the things he needs without working. If those things were taken away from him I bet when he gets hungry he will get a job.
I would try to encourage him (build him up) it may be due to lack of self confidence but I would also tell him that you need him to not be lazy and to be a man and support himself and you if he wants to marry you.
Gezze I have a job give me a call if he wont get a job lol. I would love to have a women.
2006-07-23 18:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by tfh777 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that your boyfriend does not have a job should send red flags above your head. Is there a reason why he can't find a job? If so, find out what that is. He needs to get off of his behind and hit the pavement. Since you really love him, give him a deadline. If he doesn't have a job by the time he hits your deadline, LEAVE HIM!! I hope that you're not supporting him financially because he could take advantage of you. He needs to be supporting himself in that area. I hope my advice helps you. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-07-23 18:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay first things first, J O B is not the scariest word in the dictionary. scariest word is D I V O R C E. okay couples, they stick together and get married. but people who are not financially stable, will always fight about money and responsibility. could u see urself fightin about that if u 2 are married? if u dont, i suggest u should seriously evaluate. to me, ur dating a child, and not a man. if u want to convince him, u let him make his own decision. u r not responsible for him to step up to the plate and take care of u. in reality, HE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR HIMSELF. if he cant do it, not even for u, drop him and be w/ a real man.
2006-07-23 18:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by JustiN CrediblE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work ethic is not something that can not be forced. They have to have the desire to work. If someone is always bailing him out and supporting him then he will never have a good work ethic. I really would tell him that he needs to be able to provide for you or you shouldn't marry him. Unless you want to have to work 3 jobs and come home and cook and clean for him because he is too lazy?
Good Luck, I really think that you need it.
2006-07-23 18:06:59 · answer #5 · answered by angelsforanimals 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is willing to hand you his problem with not being able to confront getting a job now, then what chance have you with him being able to take responsibility after you are married? I don't like to `rain' on anyone's parade: but, honestly, this is a major problem, that if HE can't face, then why would you WANT to?
I really wish I could hand you a magic answer - but I can't! So, it comes down to what do you want to do about it? Give him back his problem and get him to handle it, or take over, and boss him into it???
2006-07-23 18:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by Tash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe he thinks that he will have to depend on you when you get married. You need to communicate with him the importance of getting a job. You need him to clear see from yourside and if by the end of the day, he does not, you then need to evaluate how important it is for you that he has a job and if you are willing to stay with him without one.
2006-07-23 18:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by ngina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to be any more serious about getting a JOB if you're married to him. In fact, it will be worse. He's a bumb, honey! Kick him to the curb. He values his time and his interests more than he values you. If he didn't, he'd be out there providing for you. He's a loser.
2006-07-23 18:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he needs to get a job before you marry him so he can help with bills
2006-07-23 18:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to shape up or ship out. In other words, get a job or get a new girlfriend. You don't need that trash in your life, I am not saying you need a man to support you but everyone needs someone who can hold their own.
2006-07-23 18:04:41 · answer #10 · answered by Gynolotrimena Lubriderma-Smith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋