I need a step by step how to french kiss?

Question

Im 17 never done it before Id like to be able to know how when the time comes, I know its kind of pathetic

what should I do before to lead up to it. Im just a nervous guy with beautiful woman (trying out to be miss national america)

Answer 1

OK, the steps start a LONG time before you actually begin kissing. I'm sure you will agree with me that French kissing is a definite step in the direction of sex, so it makes sense to think about whether you really want to move in that direction before you do it - and not do it at all until you are.

So, how do you know if you're ready to move in the direction of sex? Well, think about the consequences of sex: you become one with another person. And what happens, for example, if a third party intrudes on that relationship in some way, or it breaks up? It is destructive of both you and the other person. You end up leaving a bit of yourself with the other person.

I'd say you might be ready to move in the direction of sex with someone if you're ready to:

really put them first - even before Mom and Dad

take sole personal responsibility for the consequences of your decision - Mom and Dad won't suffer any consequences for it if, God forbid, the relationship goes bad or breaks up

take sole personal responsibility, between you and the other person, for your life together (which implies being independent from Mom and Dad, financially and not only)

make a permanent commitment to each other before witnesses.

In other words, you might be ready to move in the direction of a one-flesh relationship if you are ready to be married. And then of course you should each be absolutely sure that the other is the right one for you to spend your life with. So that would basically mean at very least being engaged.

And here I have to admit that I have never been engaged, and yet I have managed to find out from experience what I am about to tell you. So when I say all of this, I know what I'd have missed if I'd waited, and I still think it would have been worth it to wait.

But what's done is done - I may as well learn what I can from it and move on with my life. And if my experience can benefit someone else, that's great.

Part of the reason, by the way, that I can give you such detail, is that certain things are perhaps obvious when it's the guy who's taller, but if it's the woman who's taller (and I'm a woman over six feet tall), then it can be very awkward for the guy, because he has to put himself in a position which is anything but familiar.

So, when the time comes, it will be less awkward if, before you do anything, while you're still 'just hugging', you make sure that the taller party has moved the crook of their elbow into position to support the shorter party's head so their neck doesn't hurt from trying to tip their head back. It may be necessary to encourage the shorter party to relax their neck and just rest it on that elbow.

The taller party should also shift their weight back a bit, just enough so the shorter party can shift theirs forward to compensate for the head being tipped back, thereby keeping their balance.

The shorter party should also place wrap their hand/arm around the taller party's neck enough to position that party's head in a way which is comfortable.

This way, you can accommodate even a six-inch height difference comfortably without anyone having to stand on their toes or anything like that.

Then a French kiss, especially the first time, basically starts out as a normal kiss, and then grows softer, and then the parties slowly open up to each other.

And there's sort of a magic moment when you've opened up just enough to start, you feel a shot of energy, which you should keep under control, especially the first time, so that your partner doesn't feel like they are being devoured rather than kissed.

And a very key thing once you've started is to be very slow and gentle and keep your tongue soft, just use the tip of your tongue perhaps at first.

So, to sum up, you want to create a supportive, soft, open environment, and be self-controlled and considerate about what you do once you have created that.

There, I think that will suffice for a successful first French kiss, when the time comes. And no, it is NOT pathetic that you haven't yet. My associations when I hear that are that you are honorable and have been waiting for the right person and the right situation so that it will be 'quality time'.

Please continue to maintain that kind of attitude - it will mean a lot more to your partner than technique.

May God bless you

Answer 2

One key, go with the flow. Don't have a set motion. Feed off your partner and how they're doing it. Everyone kisses different, it's best to add you're own style to it. Kissing is two givers and two recievers, not a giver and a reciever.

Answer 3

First u wanna close your eyes slip ya tongue in their mouth and swirl your tongue around like your eating a ice cream cone a there ya go your french kissing

Answer 4

Don't slobber, but your body will know what to do. You don't kiss because others are doing it, you do it because it is completely instinct. Just like how your brain knows how to breath, or how you know how to eat and swallow food... when the time comes you will know how to kiss.

Answer 5

Yeah, just dont think about what your going to do before you do it. Make it natural, and since it will be your first time try following his lead. goodluck :)

Answer 6

if someone on here actually tells u how then don't follow it! u will probably make a fool out of yourself while TRYING to kiss....it comes to u!

Answer 7

ok u kiss and then stick ur tongue into the persons mouth don't open your eyes..and juss go wit it...it gets better unless u don't have a long tongue...lol...

Answer 8

yea well when you find out i wanna know