My gf just left me , what should i do?

Question

its been 3 weeks since my gf left me (for the 3rd time) over the issue that she THINKs she no longer loves me and that she wants freedom ( no commitment to the relationship). Whats worse for me is that i have a major exam coming up in a matter of 5 weeks and another even more impt exam coming up in 99 days time. i am getting worried as firstly i cant get my mind of my ex and on top of that its affecting my studies. i cannot afford to do badly as its A levels examination. what should i do? i really want to contact her but yet i am hesistating becoz i want her to have some free space. but i fear in this period of time if i leave her alone she might fall for someone else. we had been together for 26mths . i really love her and i dun wanna lose her but yet i also dun wanna bug her but yet i still want to call her. at the same time my studies are affecting me. i just dunno what to do. i haven't been sleeping well. i really want her back. pls advice me what to do. thanks

Answer 1

Here's what you do: Go to the bathroom mirror, and say, "You're a loser" to the first person you see. After that, get yourself a pencil and write down the advice I'm about to give you.

First off, quit being a little girl about this. The one thing that drives women away the most is when you start acting like one too. Women want a man, and a man does not sit around and mope about his ex-girlfriend. A man moves on to the next attractive woman he sees.

Women desire a multitude of things, but the ones who have a real grip on reality don't want a man who pursues them. They love the thrill of the chase, not being chased. If you start thinking and acting in a way that says, "I'm desirable" then it will be so.

On a side note. If you quit persuing her, it is likely that she will pursue you. Why? Because people naturally want the things they believe they can't have.

Answer 2

Seriously, NO OFFENSE..but. This girl is SO not worth your time. She is obviously, not looking for a commitment of any kind. Exams are stressful enough, without a flighty girlfriend. You need to do yourself a favor and give her free space, a lot of it. You should be more concerned about the way your "relationship" is affecting you. I know its tough to still love an ex, but you cannot keep her on this pedestal. She's not looking for the same kind of relationship you are, and dare I say she's not emotionally avaliable. Try again LATER. After you've both had some time to cool off and re-evaluate what you want from a relationship. Best of luck!!!

Answer 3

You need to read this: http://www.alovelinksplus.com/advice/can-i-get-my-girlfriend-back.htm and believe it too. Hey, Im not forcing you to believe it, but what's your alternative? Bugging her? Chasing her? Calling her up and asking for her to come back?Come on, let's be honest you know that's not gonna work. I know how you feel dude we've all been there, and Im not asking you to give up forever but...well, think of walking a pet. You can leave alot of leash for the pet to run around free (but still be connected to you) and it will come back to you, or you can try to bring it as close as possible and you're just going to end up choking it (the relationship). Just let her be and do what the article says. Hang out and meet new people, move on and let her come to you. Good luck man!


Also, the guy above is 100% right. Push and Pull. The more you push her, the more she pulls away. The more you pull away, the more she pushes towards you.

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Answer 4

#1,., DO NOT CALL OR SEE HER. It will make you look needy. #2) go out with your friends and have a good time. #3) work on forgetting about her and put your aggrevation into somehting useful (like your exams). Bottom line, she left you, if you wind up with her again, you will end up hurting worse that you do now... trust me, I know from experience. Getting back together with an ex is not a good idea, it will end up ending again, it is just a matter of time.

Answer 5

I believe you should take your time off from your gal and concentrate coz imagine the imporse of passing the A level. If things were meant to be between you and your gal, things will work out. I seriously believe you need to get over her.

Answer 6

Get some prostitutes and the sex will get your mind off of her for a few days, that will give you enough time to get prepped for the exam!

Try girls from brooklyn or Harlem, very cheap but i dont know if they ship internationally.

Answer 7

My oh my, it really is effecting you. You can't spell to save your life. Better call her up and see if its really over. Maybe explain to her you'd like to give it another try after the distractions of school are out of the way.

Answer 8

She is done with you. Take this time to learn from your experience. Go to my source. With knowledge comes power. It may not make you feel better, but you will avoid unnecessary pain in the future.

Answer 9

she obviously didn't know what she wanted, the only thing i can say is , move on .. begin from zero.
it'll hurts , but you will get a little more mature from that love experience. (especially you will learn more about yourself)

Answer 10

She's a *****!!!!!No offense but she isnt right for you. She wants to get back with you whenever she feels like it and thats not right!!!!I used to be like that && trust me that isnt a good sign.