My hubby and I have been married for almost nine years, and we don't have any kids yet. A lot of people find it strange, but we really enjoy each other and our freedom. We have a dog..lol..which is fun, but we are not sure if we'll ever have kids. Maybe someday. ....
Why don't you have kids?
2006-07-23 17:39:52 · 14 answers · asked by stickan8 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First and foremost, I don't have a husband or even a boyfriend that I would consider having a child with. Secondly, I pretty much make just enough money to get by on my own, the added expense of a child would be very difficult financially for me. Also, I also like the fact that I am free to come and go as I please, take last minute vacations, etc. without the worry of a child.
There are soooo many reasons not to have children. Isn't is strange that society finds it the "norm" and has to bring it up to you like you are a weirdo?
I understand where you are coming from. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years and we don't even live together. Everyone thinks we are strange, but we're both very independent and we like the way our relationship works.
Why fix it if it isn't broken? Right?
2006-07-23 17:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by seattlecutiepie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five years ago I was VERY driven, had a great career. I felt like I was making my mark in the world. I worked in university admin., my campus was closed. I started a home business, it basically paid the bills. I didn't want kids at first, then we tried for a few years, I was told I would not be able to conceive because of my tilted uterus and was diagnosed with Endometriosis.
Then I got pregnant. It was a difficult pregnancy, I was high risk. She is worth everything I went through to get her here. I want to do it all over again! There is not better job title, no better reward than being my angels mommy. Not every minute is peachy but nothing good ever comes easy. If you told me five years ago I would be a stay at home mom, I would of laughed. Being a stay at home mom and watching her grow and teaching and guiding her is the best position I will ever have.
2006-07-23 17:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by angelsmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids are alot of responsibility and with being married and just the two of you, you have a lot of freedom and have had a lot of time not sharing each other with someone new like a baby i say that you guys have had a lot of time to freedom and each other and if you really know that you would like to have kids then do it but dont have kids just b/c people thinks it is weird then that is when your relationship goes south and you might not be so happy with each other anymore. Share your feelings with each other and work your emotions about this out between each other and dont let other people interfer with this important decision.
2006-07-23 17:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by crystal_brown347 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do (well did they are grown up now) but I know several couples that don't. One chose not to because they love to travel and kids are expensive and a pain in the butt to take on vacation, I know others that just plain old didn't want all the hassles. Its a perfectly valid choice, one that more people should probably make. If you eliminated all the people that have kids but are NOT good parents there would be a lot more people without them.
2006-07-23 17:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 16 and not married. And determined that I should be married before having sex, let alone have children.
I know some friends of my Mum and Dad have been married for a long time and have chosen never to have children. Not sure why, and it's none of my business anyway, but they are happy with their decision.
You should only have children if and when you choose to (unless, well, accidents happen). I think choosing not to have children is a valid choice for a couple to make.
2006-07-23 17:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am have been married for going on two years this september. But have dated my husband since 1997. I personally am not really wanting kids. I have thought it out many times in my head and weighed the pros and cons. If it was completely up to me i will never have them, but i have him to consider. I know it sounds selfish not to want to take on the responsibility. But that is a huge drain on your emotions and money. I honestly can say that i feel that i need to mature more to deal with a child any time in the near future
2006-07-23 17:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because kids are a ton of work! Having kids is a life-long commitment, and not having kids lets you focus more on your spouse making for a happier MARRIAGE. Not every couple is cut out to have a family so it is actually good what you guys are doing.
2006-07-23 17:47:19 · answer #7 · answered by Drew 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do have kids and I can tell you I know why animals sometimes eat their young. Mine are grown, but if I had it to do over, I wouldn't have 3...maybe only one if I could choose the one I would have. I think a dog is a good idea.
2006-07-23 17:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of us dont have kids, for me, i just dont want any as i like my life the way it is, and i could never bring a child into this world, their are to many kids out their who need us anyway, haha i have a dog to and two cats, and they cost me enough money as it is, i love kids but thats as far as it will ever go. maybe one day you will have kids, if not, dont let it bother you, all my friends keep telling me to have kids, or say to me that i will. but to tell the truth, im sick of them saying it. anyway their is nothing bad about haveing a dog instead of haveing kids ok.
2006-07-23 17:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kind of life I wanted to have (and do have) does not really have any room for kids. I never felt the urge. I'm happy that my friends are having them, but it's just not for me.
2006-07-23 17:44:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋