Ok, my mom won't let me shave my legs, and each time I ask her if I could, she yells and says no!What do I do?

Question

I want to wear shorts, but I don't because I have hairy legs.
I am old enough to shave, for sure.

am 13, and I don't want to wax or us stupid chemicals! plus, i'm to scared to just shave and not tell her

Oh! plus, I love to play tennis and it gets really hot when I play I pants, but I can't wear shorts!

Answer 1

trust me, you want to go as long as you can without shaving because once you start that is it, you will be shaving every other day. I started at 15. I know girls develop at different rates - my daughter (who thanfully so far has no desire to shave her legs :) _
is 13- she has hair on her legs but it is so fine and so blonde, you would not be able to see it but to look really close.
Believe me, for most people that are really worried about the hair on their legs - the only person that really notices is you. Now if your legs are looking like a man's then you might ask your mom to sit down and talk with me about why she does not want you to shave your legs and explain to her in a reasonable, RESPECTFUL way why you feel like you need to. One thing you need to remember- if you approach her with a rebellious "I want my way " attitude- you will get nowhere . I can't promise she will change her mind and being that she is your mother- she has every right to her decisions- you will get a lot farther with her in the long run if you present yourself in a mature manner, speaking with respect and reverence for her authority and wisdom and are willing to accept her answer even if it is not what you want

added note ** as a mom, let me warn you against using any of the manipulitive methods described above- I would see right through it and would not be embarrassed by ridiculous getups - you might get mighty embarrassed though- why dont you try being obedient and submissive without any ulterior motives because it is the right thing to do- believe me- my daughters get a lot farther in the areas of trust and my recognizing their maturity when they behave in a mature manner rather than manipulate and scheme to get their way.

Answer 2

I don't think there is any right or wrong answer to this. It all depends on the individual and whether or not they need to shave. I've never shaved in my life instead I've always used hair removal cream (mainly Veet). I started doing that at 11 and trust me I needed to (I have dark, thick hair). However, other 11 year olds didn't need to. My mother never would have let me shave and had the same concerns as your mother. Firstly I think you need to assess whether you need to shave or whether you want to shave because your friends are starting to. If you start when you don't need to you'll ruin your skin and shaving or any hair removal takes time and costs money - no point doing it if you don't actually need to. Though by 13 I would say you'd be fine to start in that way. Secondly try researching different hair removal methods. Your mother is obviously concerned about the thought of you harming yourself but there are other methods you can use. You could wax or use hair removal cream. If you opt for hair removal creams ensure you test the skin for allergies. Some people cannot use these products (my mother is one) but other people ie me can. Veet is a good brand and I've only ever used that one - I'm not sure if it's available in your area though. Hair removal cream works by burning out the hairs at the root. Don't worry you don't feel a thing (the only time it will hurt is if you leave it on too long which is why you need to follow the instructions. I've left it on too long, trust me it's not fun). To me the final result after using it is better than what I see from people shaving (my mother always shaved) and hair removal cream makes the skin smoother and it takes longer to grow back. With shaving the hair seems to come back after 1-2 days so it is a constant thing but with hair removal cream you don't notice hair until almost two months later. You can use hair removal for underarm and bikini line also but hair grows back extremely quickly in those places and that's normal. You cannot use hair removal cream on your face if you have noticeable hair there use bleach instead not that cream.

Answer 3

Your age would help.

However, as it is socially DEMANDED that you do so (shave your legs. And yes, some would disagree, but in the real world this is how it is), I do not think your mom has much say in the matter.

I am assuming she has issues with the fact that you are growing up. It's time for her to face the music.

Do yourself a favor though with the clothes you wear. Make sure they are somewhat modest - at least for now. That way you will not give your mom any other reason to keep you from wearing the clothes you want.

Answer 4

Ask her what her reasons are for not letting you shave. Is it because she thinks you're too young? Is it for another reason? Why don't you ask her if she'll take you somewhere to get waxed instead? Offer to save up your own money to do it. Are you blond? If you are, you may not need to shave at all - and it is wiser not to at all since shaving makes the hair grow back darker and thicker and you will have to always do it once you start.
Good luck, and I hope you make a good decision.

Answer 5

well she probably doesn't want you to because that means that you're growing up and doesn't like that. or she thinks you don't have the responsibility to do that. you have to show her that you are responsible and quit asking her. in a couple months it'll be cold again so you'll be wearing pants anyway. so after the winter when it starts to warm up again, then you can ask her and explain that you are responsibile enough to do it. but don't ask her before then. so you'll live with hairy legs for a while, big deal. if that's your biggest problem in life right now, then you have a pretty happy life and not everything has to be perfect. be happy with what you have, don't always keep asking for more. being content does show you're mom how responsible you are.

Answer 6

!!Don't shave without telling her!! Then when she finds out she'll think your even LESS mature or responsible and might make you grow it out again. Instead try explaining to her that the two of you need to have a serious conversation, with no yelling, about the subject. Tell her to be patient and understanding while she hears your reasons, and if she still says no, ask her why! Maybe it'll make her rethink about letting you shave.

Answer 7

Well I started shaving when I was about ten.Honestly, I can tell you right now that it was a mistake.Shaving so young only makes your hair more coarse.It sucks, I haven't shaved in two days and my hair on my legs is thick and black.It's so obnoxious.Shaving really isn't that big of a deal.When your younger it's normal to have a pretty layer of hair on those brand new legs.Take advantage of being able to wear those short shorts and not having to shave.

Answer 8

Ouch. I had the sammme problem. I just went over to my friend's and got her to shave my legs. I told my mother what I had done, and she knew that I would have to keep shaving because my leg hairs would be growing faster & courser... so that broke the so called ice. I'm not saying to follow this advice, but it's what I did, and it worked.

Answer 9

Shaving is a pain in the rear. I'd say just let those hairs grow and go get some stuff to bleach them with. Or would your mom allow you to get your legs waxed? Yes it hurts, but only for a few seconds, you can handle it, and there won't be any painful nicks or scrapes that take forever to heal and look horrible.

Answer 10

Well it depends on how old are you lol..my friend had the exact same problem with her mom...she wanted to shave her leg but her mom kept telling her how young she was and all..till she was like 15, she had enough and sat her mom down and told her that she was not joking, she doesn't feel comfortable wearing shorts with such hairy legs, and she want to take them off. It makes her feel self-conscious. Her mom understood and told her she could take the hair off by waxing instead as its safer ;)
You should try it too. It might work.
Take care.

Answer 11

I heard once of a girl in your situation. She began dressing in ridiculous get-ups that covered her legs to an extreme; like putting on snow pants to go to a cookout, or wearing a floor-length granny skirt to mow the grass. Think, thick black knee socks with your capri's, tights with your swim suit... make it ugly and eye-catching, and hang around where your mother's friends will see you. Act oblivious to what you are doing, just smile sweetly and be the obedient daughter. Or, you could go with the look, get lots of hippie/organic clothing, henna tatoos, do your hair in dredlocks, throw out the deodorant, and see if she likes that any better.
Oh, I hope you are at least twelve. Any younger and I would have to say go play with your dolls and try again in a year or so.