Help on potty training my 2 1/2 year old little girl who knows what to do but wont.?

Question

I have been somewhat training my daughter the gently way by letting her choose if she wants to go on the potty or not. Everything I have heard about potty training says not to make it a power struggle, but now she just wont go. She tells me after she poops and I know that she knows when she is pooping because she leaves the room to be by herself but she wont go on the potty. She also was trying to go pee on the potty all the time but now she rarely goes, once she realized this was a full time thing she said no way and just stopped, so basically i am stuck with a child who is ready in all aspects ( except she cant pull up her pants) but wont go. She refuses to wear pull ups, I even bought the cool alert ones but she pees like a boy...forward not down so they didnt work. I dont know any options except to fight with her and tell her that she has to go and then force the panties on. I have explained that she is a big girl and gone through ever speech I know about why she should go on

the potty but nothing seems to work. Help please any ideas

Answer 1

OK, here's my story:
My daughter (maybe it's a girl thing) went potty on the toilet a few times, then decided maybe she could go poop. That poop hit the water and she literally JUMPED off the toilet SCREAMING and refused to go near it again until she was 3 YEARS OLD!!! Augh!!!! I had gotten her to pee, but she woudn't have anything to do with the poop. My friend explained that, because children wear diapers, they never have that (gravity) sensation of the poop falling out of them and it's scary for them. They think actual parts of them are falling out and it terrifies them. So, after a pretty bad day in which, Mommy needed lots of time-outs, I put everyone to bed and was laying in bed fuming. I actually prayed (I'm not saying pray about it or anything, it's just how desparate I was) to not be angry, because I was REALLY upset about it all. The thought occurred to me that, whether I flip out, get angry or whatever, that girl wasn't going to go until SHE was ready, not a second sooner. SO, the next morning I looked her in the eye and said, I'm done fighting with you about this, you let me know when you're ready to be a big girl. 2 weeks, that's right, 2 weeks later I hear this yell from the bathroom, "MOM!!! I goed PooPoo!!! Come wipe me!!!!" Wouldn't you know, she really did... She's been in big girl panties day AND NIGHT ever since and has only had 2 accidents in the past 6 months.

The moral, she'll do it when she's ready and the more you push her, the longer she'll refuse. Good luck! and my most heart-felt sympathies.

Answer 2

Im not a parent but I have a 2 and a half year old sister and she has just begun potty training as well. About 6 months ago we tried to start potty training her, but things got hectic and we just sort of stopped and focused on other matters. Now my sister all on her own will say "I have to go poopy." or whatever it is she needs to do. Then we will ask if she wants to sit on the potty and she will say yes and we let her go in there by herself and she calls us when she is done and we help her wipe and such. Really, I think it is all about when they are ready. Forcing your daughter wont get you anywhere, she will go when shes ready. I thought it was late for my sister, but she just started asking on her own. My sister also has a little step stool that she likes to put her feet on when she goes to the bathroom. It may seem cheezy and whatnot but it makes her feel like a big girl
having her own stuff and all. I wouldnt worry if I were you, maybe just casually suggest going to the bathroom or when you have to go, tell her your going to the bathroom like a big girl. That always motivates my sister.

Answer 3

Forget about the speeches. Sounds like the diaper is her security blanket for now. So let it be. It is something she has control of right now. You say she knows when she has to go and one day she will decide she is a big girl and just do it. Don't worry what other people say about her still wearing a diaper.
Here is a funny one for you, when my oldest one managed to do a Nr2 for the first time in the potty it scared her so much she held it in and would scream. She got so good doing that she even managed to get herself constipated. Had to wheel and deal with prune juice. Now she is 18 and knows better. Also onetime we were on the road and she had to go.The behind the bush wouldn't do for her, so I convinced her a box in my car was a "potty" . Backfired at me at home:o) Had to hide boxes for awhile. Anyways, my point is she is not doing it anymore, and stuff like that makes for good memories.

Answer 4

I'd LOVE to see what you get for answers to this - my daughter is the exact age yours is - and would rather pee outside (a we have dogs, b her cousin did it and her cousin is a GODDESS in her eyes) then on her potty -

she literally had such a fit the other day I let her go pee outside in the rain!!! (We live in the middle of NO WHERE!!!!)

The being a big girl thing doesn't work with her - aaarrrggghhh

I'm gonna watch your question if you don't mind!!!

Answer 5

get the book about how to potty train in one day. it has worked for all of my friends.
i tried what you're trying and it didn't work. so i just waited, and one day my daughter just decided that she wanted to start going in the potty. she was a little older than yours, but i think time was the answer