should i go to these parties
2006-07-23 17:10:12 · 15 answers · asked by maria c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I just returned from 15 mo in Iraq. The family support groups that are formed for deployed soldiers are great they help tremendously for the families who are back in the states. It is a great way to get to know others who are going through the same things as you are. I would recomend going to them and I'm sure he would support you in this as well. It doesn't matter if it's your son, daughter, g/f, b/f, husband or wife it's a whole community when a deployment happens. I wish you the best and god speed his return home.
2006-07-23 17:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by Code3EMT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your son being in Iraq have to do with you performing your social duties? I'm sure your son will want to know what happened at these parties, so this gives stuff to write about in the letters you're sending him. Send lots of letters and care packages. You shouldn't feel guilty because your son voluntarily joined the army and is now performing his duties. Go to your family gatherings it's important. The soldier who responded to your question has a good point, try some of the family support groups. Your son is a hero. Send him pictures of what he's defending.
2006-07-24 03:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you feel guilty? I'm sure your son would want you to go to the family get togethers. I'm sure the rest of the family wants to see you as well, and you need their support while your son is in Iraq. Absolutely you should go, and have a good time. Ask your son to check out this question, and I'll bet he'll say the same thing I'm saying....good luck!
2006-07-24 03:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son wouldn't want to be a cause to your misery. I have family in Iraq right now too and it is so hard because I worry about my nephews all of the time. I would go to the family functions and take a lot of pictures and maybe even video record them and send him copies. That way he will know that you were thinking about him and maybe other family members would like to send him messages too. It will let him see you and your family and maybe for a brief time it will allow him to feel part of something other than the war that he faces everyday. It will brighten his mood and give him more courage. At least that is what my nephews say when we send them pictures. I will add your son to my prayers. I wish this war would end soon so all of our loved ones could be home with us. I know this is hard for you but your not alone. Good Luck!
2006-07-24 00:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by angelsforanimals 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems as though we are in the same boat here! My son is also there. I know for a fact Maria,that my own son would not want me to sit home,and miss a family party. You should NOT feel guilty at all! Your son doesn't want you to feel that way. Believe me,I know how difficult it is,and I know what you are going through. This is the job that both our son's wanted. They have been trained very well. They are doing their parts. We do our parts as mothers,and have faith,and pray,and live our lives. Take care.
2006-07-24 00:21:55 · answer #5 · answered by dj6217 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put on your best dress and go to those parties!It does not honour your son to stay home and put on sack cloth and ashes. But, when you go to the party take a camera and take lots of photos, take a card for everybody to sign. Press flowers from the garden, just do anything and everything you can think of to make him feel like he was part of the fun. Let him know there are friends and family that miss him and are thinking of him.
2006-07-24 00:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by Jane B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is in Iraq fighting for our country's safety and it's because of him and all the soldiers of all wars that we are free here in the USA to go to family parties. I'm sure that he'd feel sad that you weren't enjoying your freedom he and others have fought so hard for. Absolutely, go and let all your family ask about him. Have pictures of him to show off and stories about his letters. Tell them how much you miss him and you can even cry, which is a healthy thing for a mom to do, and tell them how proud of him you are. He certainly wouldn't want you to feel guilty and be having a pity party because of a choice he made. You have your life here and he'd want you to enjoy it. I'm betting somebody else in your family will know somebody in Iraq who they want to brag about. Enjoy your life and if you are too depressed, go see your doctor. He/she may give you anti-depressants to help you cope better, or recommend some things to help you. While you are at your family parties, give out his address and ask them to send him goodies to eat! I'm sure he'd love it.
2006-07-24 00:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should go to those parties... Mam, you son is doing this country a great deed. He is serving our country and putting it all down so you can have that chance to go to those parties with your family. So instead of feeling guilty, feel honored that you can be together with your family because of people like your son.
God bless America and its Soliders!
2006-07-24 00:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by Dean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously doubt that your son wants you to sit alone in the dark until he returns. You need to get out and enjoy your family. He probably would like to see pictures of the family having good times. Go, have a good time and take pictures for him! You aren't in mourning!
2006-07-24 00:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by peachyone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You should go to them. Your son would feel better knowing you are not miserable and you are keeping in touch with family when he can't very easily. You should encourage family to send him packages and letters also.
2006-07-24 00:14:43 · answer #10 · answered by DevelopedBeauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋