On average, how often should the man get up with the baby?

Question

women be fair. Me and my husband are fixing to have our first baby.

Answer 1

i say u take turns if hubby is a night person let him do the nights .. hubby took care of son at night and i had him in the day time .. but men should get up with the baby as much as the mommys and for the first few days daddy should do everything he can to help u best wishes

Answer 2

It all depends on a couple of factors.
1. Do you work outside the home and your husband works a full time job, early in the morning?
2. Are you breast feeding?

If you are not working outside the home and your husband works early, I would say most of the time it should be the mom who gets up. Every Saturday night I pumped and had bottles ready for my husband. That was my night to sleep a full night. You could always do something like this with your husband because of course we women do need a good nights rest once in a while too! Before you know it your baby will be sleeping all night long and you will all be getting a full nights rest! Enjoy the baby while he/she is little.
One thing you do NOT want to do, is the bring baby to bed with you for more than one reason. The baby will get in the habit of sleeping with you and then he/she will be 5 years old and still in your bed and two, accidents happen, you could fall asleep and roll onto the baby and smother it.

Answer 3

Some men never do! But, maybe you should ask him how often he'll be willing to do it. Obviously, if you work full time or just as many hours as he does, then he should share in an equal part of the load. If you stay at home all day, then he shouldn't be expected to get up at all if he works all day. He needs his sleep. If you both work and you both need to sleep at night, then I think every other trip is fair, but you really need to check with him because it really doesn't matter what is fair. It really matters what he is willing to do! If you work full time and he's unemployed, then he should do it all the time! Some guys are more "maternal" than others. Some men do well just to watch the kid from time to time. My friend's child's father won't even watch him most the time. I've taken him for free because I care about him and I know my friend can't really afford decent child care! His father needs to step up and be a real man!

Answer 4

the man.... well if "the man" is working, and you are not, I think less often than you, because you can fit a snooze in later while the baby sleeps.... however, if you have a difficult baby, "the man" should definitely give you lots of support so that you do not come to resent the baby. The third option is that you are both working, I say you split is 50/50 with "the man." Because you were woman enough and he was man enough to bring the baby into the world. I don't believe this is a man/woman issue.. I believe it is a partnership. Good Luck to you.

Answer 5

That all depends on whether you are planning on nursing or not. If you are planning on nursing (via the au natural means) then he won't really have a reason to get up (besides changing, cleaning up after the baby); if you decide that you are going to used a breast pump and use a baby bottle then share the duties respectively, perhaps every other one would be fair?

Answer 6

It's really up to the couple. My wife & I never really had a set "It's your turn". We just did. If I was off the next day I pretty much got up. If I had an early day then she did. This does'nt mean that on occassion I did'nt get up, because she had a hard day or just cause I wanted to admire my baby. If we both needed to get up we did. It's a 50/50 thing. If you're gonna raise a child you have to do it together.

Congrats & Good Luck!!!

Answer 7

I think that out of fairness, if you the man has to go to work to earn money for the family..he should be able to rest the night and go to work, and then when he comes from the work he should help as much as possible and make sure that mother can rest too. But if the man is staying at home and the mother is working, then it is other way around. Parenting is teamwork.

Answer 8

IMHO, don't set yourself (or your hubby) up for failure by setting expectations based on what other people do or don't do. This is not be a "should" kind of thing at all, because as soon as you decide, then somebody's going to fall short.

I have 4 kids and my husband and I worked it out differently each time, and mostly on an "as needed per circumstances" basis.

The best answer is to be flexible and thoughtful and caring toward hubby about it. He'll appreciate it.

Answer 9

If your husband works and you don't- you should get up during the work week and then take turns on his days off. Example: He gets up during the night but gets to sleep in Saturday, switch for Sunday.

If you both work- take turns every other night.

Do you plan on breastfeeding? If so, he should have to get up and bring you the baby, since you have to do all the work thereafter.

Not breastfeeding- take turns every other feeding or night

Hope that helps!

Answer 10

Well in such a partnership, you 2 need to discuss who has the most time....Who needs to get up for work first or who stays at home with baby for awhile after baby enters our world.....As for how often, it doesn't matter who but when baby needs we go. It's not the "man" or "woman" but how often should a parent get up with baby...My answer? Everytime, that's how often...(grins) good luck to you both!!