I absolutely can't stand my one roomate,( I have 3) he's just a mooch and a lump. He just sits around all day doing nothing and collecting welfare. He comes into my room and takes my cigarette butts, has no problem just asking for things he has no right to, he doesn't do a damn thing in the way of dishes, housework, etc.
Some suggestions please!
P.S. Did I mention he's black. Not that that would be a big shock if you read my story. Which is just the tip of things.
2006-07-23 16:57:05 · 25 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
And NO, I'm NOT racist.
I'm just elaborating on the already extensively PROVEN stereotype.
I have several black FRIENDS, and they're all the same. Except THEY'RE not my roomates!
2006-07-23 17:13:45 · update #1
I'm kind of in the same situation. My roommate quit her job a few months ago and hasn't really put much effort into finding a new one. She just sits on the couch watching T.V., drinking, or hanging out with people I'd rather not have in the apt. She depends on her boyfriend to pay her part of the rent and for me to pay the entire food bill. I'm looking for a new place. So you can either kick him out or find a new place yourself. Good luck to ya
2006-07-23 18:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by meerkat momma 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be direct. Ask him to pay up or leave. Would be best if you can get everyone to ask him together. Get together(the other 2 of your roommates and you) and if you all agree that its not going the way it should ask him for what "he" thinks is the solution to the problem and if he does offer a solution as in, hes going to get a job soon, agree to a timeframe when hes absolutely got to get that job, or.. and this is important - decide right now what should happen if it doesnt happen in that time.
And by the way, mooches come in all races and shapes dont they. A bit of a racist are we?
2006-07-23 17:03:48 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 03:27:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does his race have anything to do with it? Anyway, if it bothers everyone as much as it does you ask him to leave. But understand that he doesn't really have to. Especially if he is on the lease. You could make his life hell. Put a lock on your bedroom door, don't give him anything, completely ignore him. Try and get everyone to do the same and maybe he will just move away.
2006-07-23 17:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by Flower Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your other roommates feel the same way about his actions (or lack thereof)? Don't attack him as a group but talk to him about your concerns. If you attack him he'll likely shut down (men do that regardless of race). If you don't want him taking your stuff, restrict access to it or start giving him a taste of his own medicine. The key is to show him what it's like to feel the way you do. But like I said, stay away from overly malicious tendencies at first. He'll likely shut down, then retaliate later.
2006-07-23 17:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by SomeoneUdunno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before people move in with you, you need to have a paper drawn up of do's and dont's be specific sharing chores no using others things and all parties sign it so that if something doesn't gell then he wouldn't yell uncle ya know?
2006-07-23 17:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by red dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that actually is racist. Not all blacks are like that- I've had a black roommate and she was kind of a neat freak.
put a lock on your bedroom door and have the other 2 roommates join you in an intervention.
2006-07-24 20:15:21 · answer #7 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok..first of all being black has nothing to do with it!!! I saw a white man with a homeless sign with a McDonalds sign right behind him saying "now hiring". Give him a week to clean up his act...tell him exactly what is bothering you and how he can change it. if not, give him a month's notice to find a new place
2006-07-23 17:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by hambone1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you start looking for a new roommate and then throw him out (so long as he's not on the lease, he can't legally do anything about it). In the meantime, buy a lock for your door.
2006-07-23 17:02:23 · answer #9 · answered by ctwitch24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Besides his being black having nothing to do with it...
maybe you should choose your roommates more wisely the next time around.
Live and learn!
2006-07-23 17:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋