How often do you judiciously use tact when someone asks you for your personal opinion? or are you simply rude?

Answer 1

Always, be tactful to all who needs help and have questions, so that other people will treat you the same way when you want an answer to a question.

Answer 2

I should always be truthful, but here's how I really handle it: if I think the person honestly wants an honest opinion, and will not cause me trouble because I give one, I tell them straight out what I think. But if I have a strong feeling that there is a certain answer they want to hear, I tell them what they want to hear. If the question is obviously to seek reassurance, about the impression they are likely to make at a party or on a job interview, I give a reassuring answer and tell them they have nothing to worry about. If I under-estimated the person's ability to handle the truth and they get smart with me because of it, I can be very rude in return. In other words, I am very well-meaning, but am also fairly well skilled in the arts of being a hypocrite or a jackass as the situation dictates.. It's uncomfortable, but not usually fatal.

Answer 3

I try hard to be honest at all times, however I realize that honesty can hurt someone's feelings. So I try to turn the situation around and build the person up or focus on the positive.

For example, I call babies who are not very cute 'precious'--because all babies are precious, not cute.

If someone asks me about a new outfit they like but may not look good on them I say something like ''You are such a beautiful person--too bad that outfit does not do you justice. You should try something else that brings out the best features in you"

If someone asks me about their performance my response will depend on if they need more encouragement or constructive criticism.

If they need encouragement, I tell them that I can tell they are very passionate about what they do and I may speak mostly about their heart, hard work and admire their determination. If they are truely seeking my advice, I tell them the absolute truth, but I preface the truth with "I say this because I care for you and I want to see you suceed" I always end with saying " with more practice, their hard work may pay off."

I think we owe it to people to be honest. I would much rather have a friend be honest with me than to embarrass myself in front of many others. We can save people from themselves if we are more honest. There is congenial language we can use. Honesty should never be used to try to tear someone down.

Answer 4

I try to be tactful the majority of the time except if the question is worded as though they're being smart about it, or trying to start an argument. In that case, I let them have it.

Answer 5

First, I ask the person if they really, really want my opinion. If they say yes, I am tactful and I don't lie. Being rude is unbecoming and certainly not necessary if someone trusts you enough to ask for your opinion.

Answer 6

I guess I would say that I'm somewhat tactful, because my response to a question with regards to my opinion - but I don't really want to give it - is to ask them, "Why would you like to know that?"

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Always use tact and discretion at work.
At home your answers to questions can be less formal.

Answer 9

Good one! I can be pretty sarcastic at times when giving personal opinion and still trying to get over this flaw.

Answer 10

I am brutally honest by nature, so I tone it down a lot, and it is still considered "refreshingly candid". I do try not to hurt people's feelings, but don't mind puncturing their ego a little.