I've been messin around with this guy for 5 1/2 yrs and he's married. Sick part is, his wife knows and she don't care. But they won't seem to seperate. They say it's for the kids sake even though they have one child together. Everytime I try to leave him, he always comes back. On top of us being intimate, we are each others best friend. What should I do? Is it worth hangin on to him while he gets his stuff together?
2006-07-23 16:50:09 · 19 answers · asked by thablaqwidow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If his wife doesn't care.. which is really weird.. Then she's just asking for it.
Tell him that when his kid gets older - that kid will NOT be stupid. He/she will see his mother cheating - he will see his father cheating - he will hear every arguement - he will see the lack of intimacy.
I grew up this way. It would have been better for me as a child to NOT hear my parents arguing about sex. To NOT see my mom crying and cheating on my dad. It would have been better for me to see them divorce - and then remarry - So I could have a real example of what love is
Try to tell him this perspective and see what he thinks.
If this has been going on for 5 1/2 years I don't think either of you is really willing to stop it.. Honestly.. If I were you.. I don't think I would stop it either.. If it's working so far then I would hang on ..
BUT you should tell him what I said, try taking a break from him, give him a choice, time to think about that choice, and wait for him to see if he comes around
2006-07-23 17:00:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, why the hel l have you been messing around with a married guy for 5 1/2 years. You need to leave him, and stop talking to him. Seriously. Dont mess around with him anymore
2006-07-23 16:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he's married it really doesnt matter if the wife doesnt care. second of all if he's not leaving for the sake of his kids then why is he setting a bad example by cheatin on his wife with you? Obviously he's not a caring person and you need to let him go...good luck gurl!
2006-07-23 16:57:28 · answer #3 · answered by brittspreppie504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he's not worth it and you need to stop messing around with other woman's husbands. What's wrong with you? Are you having trouble finding men your own age and who are not married. This creates problems, not for you, but for their relationships. You're allowing him to destroy a child's life. Every child depends and looks up to their parents. Now, when this child gets older, you and this man are teaching and showing this kid that its okay to see anybody, whether you're married or not. Move on and search for someone else, playa!
2006-07-23 16:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mindscrambler 30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wants you he will be with you, are you willing to accept his child in your relationship? he will always have to keep contact with his wife because of the child, i think you should find someone else, 5.5. yrs is a lot but you should of realized all of this before, he likes you because his wife stresses him out and uses the child as an excuse, let him get an official divorce then come back to you
2006-07-23 16:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by Butter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a bad situation, You need to move on with yur life. Close your ears and legs to that mess. His wife is scared from this situation or she is just weird. And this is not very good for the child at all. He will try to sweet talk you, DON'T LISTEN.
2006-07-23 16:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by Legal Eagle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie i would say no. I mean you have to look at what you want in the long run.If your wanting to stick around i would assume it would be for the long run. And do you really want a man that won't ever commit him self. i mean do you want kids and a family one day you have to think can he give that to you in the long run. And anyway it's wrong to be with a married man
2006-07-23 17:02:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes a player and you are the one being used. His wife knows it and chances even if it was to happen you will be the one stuck. Some role-model to mess around on ones wife
what goes around comes around...would u want it happen to you?
2006-07-23 16:55:39 · answer #8 · answered by Weeny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not getting his stuff together. he sounds content. if you are wanting a serious commitment, you need to find some one else. and you need to think of the kid. his parents may not care about the example they are setting but you should have enough respect for a little kid to not mess in his family.
2006-07-23 16:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by luvbuggies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes not gonna get it together!! girl 5 yrs to many. if he loved you then he would have done made a disicion. he wants to have his cake and eat it to. a child suffers worse in that kind of situation. if they dont love each other then they should have done been over good luck
2006-07-23 16:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by rdnckgal_gonwild 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋