I've always thought that if a guy tells a girl he likes her it makes her scared/shocked, and she'll say "no" no matter how she feels about the guy. Is it true that if a guy told you he likes you it puts you on the spot, or have I been told wrong?
Also, if there are any girls who had a guy tell them he likes you, and you liked them back, have you made a relationship with them afterwords?
(I'm asking for personal knowledge I'm already seeing someone ;))
2006-07-23 16:44:36 · 13 answers · asked by Marcus O 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the answers really differ from woman to woman. but for me... YES i actually get pressured when a guy tells me that he likes me because somehow it creates a feeling of obligation to like him back. the pressure is in "how do i turn him off without hurting his feelings so much?"---thats the kind of question that really pressures me.but IF i like the guy also, then that would be great for me...and the only pressure there is "when should i officially say YES to him?"
i've been done that by alot of guys....i mean they tell me that they like me and they court me but i dont like them and it just annoys me. and our friendship ends up being broken because of that. so if i may advise the guys, id advise the guys to not tell a girl that he likes her if he's not sure yet that the girl likes him back or if the girl is ready to be in a relationship. because doing that will only ruin your friendship. you can just wait till you know that she's falling for you and then you do your move.
i loved the style my current boyfriend made when he first courted me. because i never felt any pressure with him and so it made it easy for me to make the decision to have him...but also lucky for him that i secretly liked him too. he just told me that he liked me and then he told me that he's not in a hurry for my answer. if i choose to go on a more deeper relationship with him, then ok..but if not, he's still going to respect me for that. and that made it really easy for me.
2006-07-23 16:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am a girl and i actually love it when a guy tells me that they like me. It gets me looking at them and realizing if i like them or not. Sometimes it does put you on the spot and you have a shocked reaction... it does get them thinking about you though. Also, i have had this happen to me about 3 times and i have had relationships with all of them afterwards. There were also some however that i didn't it depends on the girl.
2006-07-23 23:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by Taylor C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhm, your question is a little confusing but I'll give it my best.
I have never been scared when I guy told me he liked me. Unless it was one of the rare occasions where he said it in a stalker manner. I have been shocked before, but rarely scared.
It does put you on the spot when a guy tells you he likes you, because they're kind of expecting an answer in return right away.
Yes.. I have had someone tell me they like me and start a relationship with them not too long afterwards.
Hope I answered your question.
Best Wishes!
2006-07-23 23:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by PseudoQuasiX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy told me he liked me, then i wouldn't automatically reject him. If I liked the guy back, I'd let them know, and a relationship could certainly follow, in fact, it's happened many times. I'd much rather a guy be honest w/me if he liked me, than make me guess all the time. I hate playing games!
2006-07-23 23:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by peacegirl_00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time this probably won't work. It takes away from the chase and challenge. Women want a challenge. You can't just hand yourself to them, you have to demonstrate your value and show you are an alpha male. You need to play a little hard to get and make her want you before you show any indicators of intrest.
2006-07-23 23:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by Player 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it sort or does because i hate seeing men that i like or just friends that like me feel vulnerable because if i say no they feel bad about it. Im not going to lie i do sometimes tend to say no i really dont have a reason i just dont like it i guess it makes men different in my eyes. Im not saying its bad but i guess i feel weird when they say it
2006-07-23 23:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it doesnt put us on the spot because if they like you back then they will be happy not shy but maybe shocked cuz they couldnt think you would like them but thats about it
2006-07-23 23:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya i have ....and ya u heard wrong that dosnt put them on the spot they should come out and tell u ...but that makes most girls feel special ...but i gess some girls r different...u should tell her and if she feels like shes on the spot ...(which she shouldnt) shes not 4 u !!!!
2006-07-23 23:56:54 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the guy... if i liked them too then i might just say that i like them too, now if i have been hurt before then i might say i dont... omg its complicated. about the second question... a guy told me he liked me and we went out for 6 months =)
2006-07-23 23:50:31 · answer #9 · answered by pink_latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea guys that like u tell u. the guy i love told me he liked me when we first started dating. just tell them see what they say.. what do u have to lose.
2006-07-23 23:50:25 · answer #10 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋