I've talked to my mom about how it hurts my feelings when she criticizes me and when she tells me I'm not perfect like the other girls in my area that are perfect in her eyes.Is there any other way to get her to stop?
2006-07-23 16:38:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you've probably done as much as you can do by letting her know how you feel, but there is one thing you could try.
You could compare her to moms of your friends. This might or might not have the desired effect and it could also be seen by her as a form of back-sassing that could get you in trouble. I would do it as gently and as subtlely as possible and back off if it makes her angry or hurts her.
You might also try discussing this with your dad or with an older sibling if one is available. You seem to me to be a good kid, and--by the way--take that as a complement from a man who has raised five kids of his own.
Nobody is perfect. I certainly am not. Your mom isn't. And you aren't either, but that's okay. If we were any of us perfect we would be resented and rejected for that alone. If we didn't have our own individual flaws and characteristics we would live in a very boring world.
If your mom loves you a gentle word from another person might persuade her to stop hurting your feelings. But if there is nobody to help you will have to be stronger than her, and I think it is in you to do that.
Good luck and God bless you.
2006-07-23 16:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask your mom to sit down and suggest ways for you to improve so that you will be a model daughter. Tell her you love her and want to be a good daughter but her constant criticism is killing you.
What can you do to be perfect in her eyes.
I think you will be shocked at her reply.
Good Luck
2006-07-23 16:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is extremely paranoid about what you do probable because of what SHE did at your age and is projecting onto you her shortcomings. She is maximum in all probability making use of secret agent application (e.g., a key logger)... it would not remember what passwords you take advantage of on account that she will be able to make certain each and every thing you've typed. What you should do is get our own gadget (e.g., an computer) and password it without put off beforehand she will be able to load something on there. you should attempt chatting with her back, yet this time have a third party modern (yet another relative? ought to also be one among her friends -- purely someone who's truly independent) and ask her why you won't be able to be dealt with like the guy that you at the moment are. solid success.
2016-10-15 03:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of some very famous or very successful woman who's about your Mom's age, and ask Mom why she hasn't accomplished the same things as that woman.
2006-07-23 16:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her everyone is different. You aren't like the other girls. They aren't like you. Everyone has their rights and wrongs. You can't like everything about a person. My mom and I are tight cause we look for each others positive sides not our problems.
2006-07-23 16:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by Devynn V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her how it feels and tha it really hurts... i used to get compared to my little sister all the time untill i let my mom kno how i felt, she still sometimes does it but when she sees the hurt in my eyes she apoligises
2006-07-23 16:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jessi E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she does it if she knows it hurts your feelings. Then tell her, "mom, nobodys perfect except God, and You cant compare me to GOD.
Good luck, and let me know how it goes.
2006-07-23 16:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by happycheeks1963 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your mom having a problem with herself. just find your way and prove to your mom that your different but the best
2006-07-23 16:47:14 · answer #8 · answered by apol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about next time you compare her to other teens moms...
2006-07-23 16:42:46 · answer #9 · answered by WhiteHat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her about the girls your age who have had unplanned pregnancies.
2006-07-23 17:11:59 · answer #10 · answered by O'Shea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋