We met in person after months of e-mailing after meeting on Yahoo Personals. After our first date, he hugged me at the restaurant before I got into my car. The same thing happened at the restaurant the second time, but he also kissed me. The third time, we got somewhat intimate (much sooner than I thought it would happen) and he dropped me off at my house and didn't even hug me or get out of the car. The fourth and fifth times, I came to his apartment. We had actual sex, again, sooner than I would have pictured, and both times, when I got ready to leave, he just said goodbye and made no move to hug me. He's not a jerk, and I want to hope he's not just into the sex, but it really stung that he didn't want to hug/kiss me goodbye after we became intimate. By the way, we don't just have sex. We take walks, do movies, etc. I'm also afraid I may have blown the chances we might have had for a good relationship. We're both a little quiet and I'm finding it a bit hard to get to know him.
2006-07-23 16:35:31 · 4 answers · asked by Rachel M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He may be having a hard time with letting you get close to him. Maybe he wants to keep the sex, well sex. I was seeing a guy who would spend the weekend with me and towards the end of the weekend he would get a little distant. I think it was his way of putting some space between us, not that I think it was on purpose.
Take the initative and hug him when you part next. See how he reacts. Sometimes guys are blind to what they're actions say to us and sometimes not even aware they're doing it. Talk to him if still nothing when you make the move.
2006-07-23 16:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by beautiful disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he doesn't feel comfortable doing that after sex or this guy was putting you on for the first and second date. Since you say he's not a jerk I want you to try and not have sex with him on the next date and see what he does. See guys do that sometimes not all but most. They put you on untill they hit the jackpot. Just be confident but keep this from him. Even if you both are shy someone has to say something. Im not telling you to come straight out with it but joke around the topic and see how he responds.
2006-07-23 16:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry sweetheart but I think you had a night of love and he had a one night stand that kept going for awhile.
When a person suddenly changes, go back to the time just before the change and see your answer.
2006-07-23 16:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by chrisbrown_222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might lose interest on you. try asking him what's wrong..maybe he just forgot to hug you that's it. besides you have gone more than that. like having sex thingy..
hug? no big deal
if you just want a hug ask him like
"hey, where's my hug?" when his going.....kei? hoped that helped
2006-07-23 16:47:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋