I've been best friends with my friend troy for over a decade. I've been in love with him all this time.About a week ago he told me he was in love with and wanted to date me and move in with me and we ended up making love and then I called him a couple of days ago and his gf answered the phone. He told me he had broken up with her .and now I don't know what to do ? I feel really sluty about sleeping with him but I love him. I wana cry I feel really stupid. Please help me
2006-07-23 16:28:27 · 9 answers · asked by lovelyaquariusfairy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
XXXXXXXXXXXXX I think your bestfriend is really confused about who he wants to be with. If you've known him for a while and decided to deepen your friendship, I see nothing wrong with that. Slut is the last thing that comes to my mind hun so stop beating yourself up for being normal. You ned to talk to him and find out what's really going on in that mind of his. Obviously he wasn't feeling his gf that much otherwise he wouldn't be turned on by you. There's no shame is your game hun, that's life. Good luck XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-23 16:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how are you best friends and you didn't know he had a girlfriend (or at least the true status of his relationship). You can't change what you did but you can control what you do next, after knowing each other for ten years do you want to risk that friendship, not only but be sure that you aren't mixing you friend love emotions with in love emotions which is easy o do with friends of the opposite sex....And I don't think it would be the best idea to go from friends to in a relationship and living together. That much so fast sudden and soon is almost written for disaster. If you want to be more then friends start slow, dates here and there, maybe even avoid having sex.
2006-07-23 23:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by LoTs2ShArE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been played by this person who decided to get what he wanted from you before ending the friendship he no longer cared about. DO NOT get involved with ANYONE until you give yourself time to heal from this betrayal of the highest order!!!
I'm sorry, honey, this is one of the ugliest things one of us guys can do to a girl, and NOTHING you could EVER do would be grounds to do this to you. If you want revenge, tell the girlfriend to mess up his relationship, but best to move on and never speak to this manwhore again.
Sorry, and remember that time is the greatest healer. That, and living your life marvolously and finding the perfect man to love you.
2006-07-23 23:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definetly talk to him about it. He shouldn't be doing that to you. But, you can't change what has happened. Guys say stuff like that all the time. Maybe he was serious when he said it. Give him the benefit of the doubt until you actually talk to him. You never know why she was actually over there.
2006-07-23 23:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him with it...find out why she answered his phone...if he lied to you, that's not your fault...don't feel 'slutty" or berate yourself for behavior you wouldn't have participated in had you known the situation was different...
Sorry you are hurting...hopefully this is just a misunderstanding...it's certainly not the way people who care about one another should behave...
Be strong...find out the facts before you decide what to do or how to feel...
Take care of you...
2006-07-23 23:33:34 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, meet with him face to face and talk. If he is with her, do not blame yourself, blame him. Not all men are like that, but some are. I wish you the best.
2006-07-23 23:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by mjcariati1971 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a date to have a serious chat with him. He cant have both.
2006-07-23 23:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to him and tell him it was wrong and ur notslutty u didnt know he wwas with the girlfriend with friends like that who needs enemys
2006-07-23 23:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by friendly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find help here for relationship problems:
http://www.codependents.org/
2006-07-23 23:35:53 · answer #9 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋