My fiance' proposed with a gold diamond ring,Its very pretty and huge but I love white gold..what do I do?

Answer 1

Wow, this is tough. You really risk hurting his feelings big time if you decide to switch the ring. You really need to think how he'll react, he bought you this ring as an expression of his love for you. I don't know what you do, but I do know you better consider his feelings BIG time whatever you do. This is one of the important lessons we all have to learn in marriage, sometimes you make do with something that isn't ideal, because it really is the thought that counts.

Answer 2

Wow... people can be cruel!

This is my advice... Go get a different setting. White gold and Yellow gold cost the same. If your fiance recently bought the ring and still has the receipt, there should NOT be a problem exchanging bands. It happens ALL THE TIME!

Your fiance prolly DID put a lot of effort into choosing the perfect ring for you. And I bet you that he wants you to have the ring that YOU want on your finger. I am sure that if you bring it up nicely, that he will NOT have a problem with it... You can just explain to him that white gold will look much nicer against your skin tone! I personally look BETTER in white than yellow... All of my jewelry are white... And if you wear white more than yellow, you don't want your jewelry to clash. I am SURE that if you explain it to him, he would be more than happy to take you to the jeweler to get it exchanged. And I'm sure there will be NO COST to exchange the setting from the jeweler.

One last thing, don't forget to tell your fiance how much you love your ring and how you know he must have put so much effort into finding the perfect ring for you.

Answer 3

If it means that much to you most jewelry stores will exchange yellow gold for white gold in the exact same ring for no charge. I actually wore my yellow gold ring for a couple of months but my fiance had ordered it in white gold it just took it awhile to be made. The store replace the ring in white gold and actually both my fiance and I ended up being kinda upset when the rings were exchanged because the new ring, even though we both like white gold better, was not the one he had actually proposed with

Answer 4

See about having the stone reset into something you like better.

My husband did the same thing, even though I had expressed to him several times before he proposed that I didn't care for yellow gold. We were engaged for 20 months before we got married (he was finishing college) and I was working full time and going to school for medical assisting. I didn't wear my ring all the time because the stone sat high and would snag the gloves I had to wear.

After we got married, I wore the ring more often, and developed an allergy to yellow gold. My finger would develop a nasty oozing sore under the ring after only wearing it for 4 hours. It would then take 3 weeks for the sore to heal. We went to a restyling event at the store where the ring was purchased and choose a different band in white gold. I've had my "new" ring for 5.5 years now without any problems.

I love my ring, and my husband wasn't upset about having it redone. He's happy as long as I'm happy.

Answer 5

Honestly, do some serious thinking. If he doesn't know that you like white gold - especially for something that's so important, do you two know each other well enough to be committing to each other for life?

Regardless, you can get the ring plated in rhodium and white gold, but realize that it will wear off over time. Platinum is the only way to go for a long term silver coloured ring.

Answer 6

I have a friend who had her ring dipped or plated in white gold. It came out beautifal, and she did not hurt her husbands feelings because she had the same exact ring. It is pretty cheap and most jewelers do it. I know where you are coming from. When you wear mostly silver jewelry, you want you wedding ring or engagement ring to match. I really think you fiance will understand.

Answer 7

I would do one of two things:
1. I would take this ring and later on upgrade to something that you really want. I would not tell him I did not like it.

2. Be honest and ask him if they have the same ring in white gold.

Answer 8

If your fiance spent a lot on the ring, I'm sure he would much rather you be happy with the ring you really want than for him to pay so much for one that you don't really like. My cousin didn't care for the ring her fiance picked out so they exhanged it for one she did like.

Its like buying a car for someone and they don't really like it. Doesn't make much sense. My finance and I discussed ring choices before he proposed to me so he knew exactly what I liked. Now he asks me if I want to trade it in for a bigger and better one. And trust me I am considering that.

And in your case it was the whole proposal experience that counts and the ring should be more of a reflexion of the bride to be's personality than the groom's. Anyways he is probably more excited about marrying you and making you happy, so definitely communicate and compromise with him now because marriage will be about resolving those big ticket issues. You both get your feet a little wet.
Congrats by the way!

Answer 9

In all honesty, you should do nothng about it. It was the thought behind it and the love put into it. BUT, should you really insist on changing it, talk to your fiance first about the options of a different setting. I wouldn't recommend plating it because eventually that will wear off. However, I would just leave it as is. You can always look into an "upgrade" for your 5 year mark.

Answer 10

I can understand your dilemma. My rings are platinum and I was fortunate that my husband wanted us to go together to pick them out. He went out one time previously but was glad when he decided to ask me to come too. I think being that he proposed to you and already picked out the ring, you have no choice but to keep it and wear it. If you absolutely MUST have the white gold - tell him how you feel and see if there's a way they can replate it or something. The main goal should be to respect his feelings - he might be hurt if you want to change it. Try wearing it and see how you feel...you might really love it!