I have the biggest problem with helping others that dont help you I know that that isnt right and you shouldnt be like that but how can I help them realize that they are not doing there part without hurting there feelings?
2006-07-23 15:57:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think the best way would be to lead by example. The famous saying, "Do unto others as you would have done to you."
If you show them love by helping them during a needy time then they in turn might be more thoughtful.
This is something that I struggle with. I really want to help others because that is what makes me feel good. But I sometimes lack in thinking of others. I want to be more willing to do things just because.
2006-07-23 16:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by Alice W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be a problem when the person you are helping doesn't realize that they are taking you for granted. I know from first hand experience. Me and my husband let our brother move in with us so he could get back up on his feet. Well, to make a long story short and after a lot of his borrowing money from us, we are behind financially.
You just have to set the person down and explain in no uncertain terms what is happening and if they continue to be ungrateful for your help, then cut the strings. It's called tough love but sometimes you have to do it.
2006-07-23 16:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by lilbitadevil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then according to Jesus, you are just like the Pharisee.
He said that if we just love the ones who love us, what is that? Even the Pharisee does that. But we are to love those who hate us, help those who despise us.
If you are unable to discern the lesson taught in this, perhaps that is where you need to seek. Your selfishness needs to get out of the way.
2006-07-23 16:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question to answer without more details. Remember that when you help anyone else, its a service unto God, but you can certainly point out your concerns to them.
2006-07-23 16:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never condemn them - tell them that they need to read and study the Bible - then you can ask them to check out my site - it explains the Bible well:
Check out http://www.johnfourteen.com
Look at "Studies in the Bible"
many answers to everyday life
can be found there.
Good luck in you helping others!
2006-07-23 16:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by Gladiator 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You help them -- for them, with love and understanding.
Be the light that shows the way.
2006-07-23 16:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by sunflower_pyxie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would have to be much more specific.
"Enabling" people is not being helpful. Continually rescuing a person from his own folly is wasted effort.
2006-07-23 16:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by Left the building 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. I try to imagine what Jesus would do in my place.
2006-07-23 16:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by Dragonfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋