now all she wants to do is play on the computer!! help!
2006-07-23 15:48:48 · 26 answers · asked by zoe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Forbid or limit your child or she will over indulge like us, my wife cuts me off all the time, it's really for the best though
2006-07-23 15:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is quite normal now-a-days. Computer time makes up just about all of a teens free time. It's fun and easy and safe.
15 is right about at the developing time where she look less like a girl and more like a woman. It's a hard time to go out in public, because she feels every guys eyes on her(and they are....). So staying at home on the computer avoids all that...
If it realy bothers you, you could limit her computer time. Something like one hour a day, or even less.
Also move the computer out of her room or the basement. Put it in the family room, where everyone else is all the time.
Or you could just let her go. Using the computer is not the end of the world. Sure you want her to do other things, but that is what she likes.
2006-07-23 22:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 15 year old daughter also spends a great deal of time on the computer. She has a lot of friends on her instant messaging thing plus she has her own piczo site she keeps updating, etc. If she's not on the computer then she is usually out with her friends. It's summer so I pretty much have relaxed the rules. She is going away for the first 2 weeks of August and when she gets back she intends to get a job. So until then I want her to have fun.
2006-07-25 13:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by Dellajoy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its completely normal. Some people have limited time, but it tends to get teens in a bad mood with you. Just try and encourage her to join some rec sports. They`re a lot of fun. Also volunteer to drive her and a few friends to the mall or out somewhere else. Maybe tell her some friends can come over to hang out or sleepover. She might not ask you, but that doesn`t mean she wouldn`t want to invite them over. Also, when I was younger, we always had a lot of "family projects." I spent a lot of time on the computer because I believed a different religion and it was the only place I could learn about it since I didn`t think my parents would be okay with it, so make sure she knows that she can talk to you about stuff like that without being judged.
Hope it helps.
2006-07-23 23:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your daughter has probably grown out of girl scouts.. most girls do before the age of 15. but playing games on the computer isn't a good sign.. try to encourage her to swim and play sports.. get outside & hang out with friends. sign her up for week camps during this summer. she will be involved with activities that she won't want to sit at the computer and play games.
2006-07-23 22:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is she doing on the computer? Make sure it's safe!!! for one......for two you should talk to her,give her a time limit, if she's depressed or just feeling lonely i believe this could just be a stage but never stop talking with her, being friends and a mother helps in this situation, make sure she knows how dangerous the Internet can be, plus I'd really cut her back. remember your still the mother and you have the right to, even though she might hate you after wards in the Long run she will thank you..goodluck
2006-07-23 22:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by Ness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL..Welcome to the world of teenagers. Mine did the same thing. It just happens. I don't even bother trying to limit it too much because they're talking to their friends from school. It's not that big of a deal and like everything else in life, it'll pass eventually.
It's also a good way to have something to hold over them if they don't want to listen to me. Don't do your chores or talk back?? Don't bother to get on the computer! It's a win/win for everyone.
One thing I will say is make sure you know what she's doing on the computer. It is the internet afterall. It may be in your home but it's like inviting a world full of strangers in...not everyone is good. I do keep a very close eye on who my kids are talking to and what sites they visit.
2006-07-23 22:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by davega7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
limit her time on the computer. get her involved in some other activities--did she try out for the HS swim team and not make it? is there a club team around? some other sport or activity?? some computer time is fine, but too much . . . bad. I have to be really bored to do yahoo answers, yet here I am.
2006-07-23 22:53:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find out what she's doing on the computer, who she's talking to, what she's looking at, etc. make sure it's things a 15 year old should be looking at. If it's legit then allow her a certain amount of time each day on the computer. If that doesn't work, take it away from her!!!!
2006-07-23 22:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by AnnaBanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her interests are going to change a bit, but you can help. I wouldn't start off making it obvious that you don't want her on the computer all the time. I would just encourage her to see that outdoors and activities are fun. Don't make her join clubs and whatnot, just take her the beach (sorry I don't know where you live) or take her hiking...and make it super fun for her. She will want to do it again!
2006-07-23 22:53:52 · answer #10 · answered by Scoot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.studio2b.org is really popular with the teens in my troop. At first glance she may not realize it's a Girl Scout website, so she may re-develop her enjoyment of Girl Scouts. She doesn't have to be in a troop, she can be a Juliette and just do the things that interest her.
2006-07-25 12:38:25 · answer #11 · answered by Leader Lady Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋