my body is kinda a mess due to 2 children it's mostly stretchmarks but well is it a real turnoff to men or does a body mean everything????
2006-07-23 15:36:20 · 13 answers · asked by vicarious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personality, Personality, Personality, that's were its at. As a guy I won't lie looks do get are attention and guys when they are with there friends can get really superficial, but in the real world looks don't matter that much. I had a friend that married this girl that was by Hollywood standards really hot, but she was so dumb she couldn't count to ten. We all thought he was so lucky to find a dumb hot girl, however after a couple months we all began to understand how bad off he was. They had no conversation other then arguments after he would become frustrated she couldn't figure something out and they divorced 1 year later when she became pregnant with another guys baby. If you have personality and brains you don't need looks just be healthy and love yourself.
2006-07-23 15:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Robert m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Honey! I am a recently divorced mother of one. I went from a size 8 to a size 16 back to a size 9 and then to a 16 and now I am a 12. I know were you are coming from. My body is a absolute mess and sometimes nothing I seem to do works. But let me tell you this, men still talk to me all the time and I even get asked out some!! I am the only girl in my family and all of my cousins are men. They have all told me they would rather have a "real woman" with "real curves" and a personality over a stick thin girl whom magazines say are beautiful. I believe them. You are the way you are for a reason. The way your body is now is your own and no matter what, if you lose 50 lbs or gain 50 lbs, your beautiful in your own way because your a woman. There are plenty of men out there that will not only find you attractive but want to know everything about you!! If a man is only interested in bodily appearance then he is a jack*ss and who cares what he thinks?!? I believe with all my heart that guys or real men will be totally into you for you. Who knows what the perfect body is anyway? Who is 2 say what is or isn't perfect ? What works for you and I or one man or another may be two totally different things! You go out there and you'll see I'm right!! You go girl!!
2006-07-23 15:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely.
I see decent looking guys with women that have out of shape bodies all the time.
Many of the men that I have been with don't care about stretch marks.
Most seem to only want a woman that is at least smaller than they are, but not concerned about the body being perfect just smaller than them.
And many guys don't have perfect bodies themselves. Don't give in to all of thy hype on t.v. and movies. Pay attention to the real people out in the street and notice how many different kinds of shapes of bodies. Good Luck!
2006-07-23 15:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes they can. Body is some of it but there really is no such thing as the perfect body. Guys find a wide array of body types attractive.
However, if you are concerned about stretch marks, get a one piece lingerie. You can unhook the top and bottom and use the meterial to cover your belly. Dated a few with stretch marks and that was their solution. But over all most guys don't mind.
2006-07-23 15:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by JFra472449 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a trun off at all to have stretch marks from children. Personally I view it in the back of my mind as "hey, here's a girl who is a capable mother" Not that all guys are that way. But if a guy really loves you then he will hardly care or notice them and call you silly for worrying. Good luck
P.S. My Wife has stretch marks and our personal life is Grrrrrrreat ;-)
Hope I've helped.
2006-07-23 15:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would hope not...If a man can't love you past a couple of stretchmarks...well then he is not worth your time...You brought 2 beautiful children into the world...those stretchmarks are like awards. If they can't see past the then your better off without them.
2006-07-23 15:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre a pretty girl. Smile and stop stressing on the outside and concentrate on the inside like health and a sweet personality :)
2006-07-23 15:45:34 · answer #7 · answered by carlos d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly most men want a girl with a hot body, but realistic men know, and understand the changes of a woman's body, and hopefully they can see through stretch marks, and baby fat.
2006-07-23 15:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by Aimee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't mean EVERYTHING, but most real men look at you for who you are. I think as long as you are attractive once the clothes drop its still all good! LOL!
2006-07-23 15:38:53 · answer #9 · answered by anje_s2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy really loves you then they would accept you as you are.And there are men out there who may find you extremely attractive,but you just haven't found him yet!Hope I helped
2006-07-23 15:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋