Well for starters, I am absolutly crazy about the guy I'm with. He's my best friend and my love. Well we went out one night and my best friend set me up with one of her friends. We had a great time till we got out of the movies. We went driving around town and well he leaned in to kiss me and I allowed him and then before I knew it, we were making out. I was fine until the next day when I realized that I had made a huge mistake. I love my boyfriend and I felt the need to tell him. We have always been able to tell each other everything and I felt I couldn't keep this from him. So I wrote him and email and explained to him what happened. and he has yet to respond. it has been almost 4 days and he usually emails everyday. was I wrong in telling him considering we were on a break for the summer while I was in a diffrent country? will this ruin things with us? or what? please help me. asap. thnx.
2006-07-23 15:33:47 · 12 answers · asked by sweet_babycakes09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That'll teach you to kiss and tell.
Your boyfriend is now probably your ex, deal with it, you made the mistake.
2006-07-23 15:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you guys aren't really considered a couple anymore. Taking a break means taking a break. He doesn't need to know what you did and you don't need to know what he did. As much as you feel like you should of told him. You shouldn't have. He probally feels like you might be throwing this in his face or something like that. I'm not sure if there is anything you can do at the moment since your out of the country. But maybe if you can call and talk to him. Let him know that you thought you could do the separate thing but when this happened you realized how much you really care for him and that it just didn't feel right because it wasn't with the right guy. Good luck!
2006-07-23 15:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first - WOW - and then ... it is obvious that your boyfriend is angry (upset, hurt, betrayed). You state that you can talk to him... " We have always been able to tell each other everything" understand that the openness of your relationship with him obligated you to be honest and that is a good thing but also understand that the actions you have done may have been too much for him to handle. Honesty, regardless of the cost IS always the best policy! Had you lied, it would eat you up inside and that would be far more costly down the road... You did the right thing and may have to pay the price. In my opinion, you should explain how you feel again - tell him how you feel about him - tell him what you plan to do about this mistake and then give him the right to be angry...
Good luck - I hope everything works out for you both
2006-07-23 15:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by T ¸¸.â?¢*´¸¸.â?¢*´¨L ¨`*â?¢.¸¸¨`*â?¢.¸¸ T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you weren't wrong in telling him. I'm wondering why you even went out on a date with someone else if you already had some understanding of being "exclusive" with your boyfriend.
And, by the way, you can't truly love someone that you'll be ready to cheat on. If he has not responded to your email, I imagine he's gotten your message loud and clear and really doesn't want to talk to you. Why should he dignify your actions with a reply. You betrayed him.
You have no idea what love is.
2006-07-23 15:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really screwed up, and you only compounded it by telling it to him in writing while you're half a world away.
IF he's still around when you get back home, you have a lot of work ahead of you if you're really serious with this relationship, but odds are against you in this sense; if he doesn't contact you b/4 you head home, most likely he's already dropped you and doesn't care what you have to say about this.
The truth hurts, but so does a partner who cheats.
2006-07-23 15:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, why did you separate from him in the first place?
So you can sIut around in germany. why else would you two have separated and not just stayed together.
You're allowed to make out with guys and if he wasn't making out with girls he's naive. When somebody says "I want to separate because i'm leaving for a few months to go overseas" it means "I want to nail guys with an accent guilt-free."
he's dumb if he didn't know that.
2006-07-23 15:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's hurt. He told us about you being in germany and having a relationship. You should stop playing with his emotions. He has a surprise for you when you get back.
2006-07-23 15:38:51 · answer #7 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People make mistakes. If he really loves you he will forgive you. He's probably just letting it all sink in and stuff. But if you really love him-you'll let this be a lesson and never hurt him again.
2006-07-23 15:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by SimplyMe68 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait for a couple days your boyfriend my come around
2006-07-23 15:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by hersey06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been through that before and all you have to do is call him and see whats his problem and most likly when you go back home he will get back with you
2006-07-23 17:07:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋