My children left home about 8 months ago. I downsized and was unable to keep our six year old family cat, my oldest daughter and her fiancé took Tips. He has known my daughter's fiancé for 5 years, and really liked him. Since the move he is just warming up to him and will hardly come near my youngest daughter and myself. The only time he will come near me is when my oldest daughter is not home. Has anyone had this kind of experience before? It is like he is mad at me. Will he ever get over it? I see him at least 2 times a week. Can anyone help?
Thanks
2006-07-23 15:33:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Cats
Oh.. the poor little kitties.. they do not like moving. Yes, it may take a week or less but they get over it.. It is such a traumatic experience for them... I feel so sorry for them.
2006-07-23 15:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely but its gonna take time. You have to gain that cats trust again. The best thing to do is take a can of tuna. Feed it some from your own hand. Let it build an association between you and food. Do this a few visits. Then when it starts coming to you, you start petting it. After a few visits and it starts coming to you for affection you can start picking it up and so forth. You will arrive to a day where it wont let you leave.
I rescue cats from all kinds of situations including abandoned buildings and homes destroyed by hurricanes. This takes awhile but I use that technique. I also use the same technique for cats I rescued from trauma like abuse. They become happy loving cats again in no time and are usually off to a good permanent home in a couple weeks.
2006-07-23 15:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by Betty K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cat feels guilty, and alienated. When, you're around it's new home, it feels confused, why, you're around, almost like it feels abandoned. The cat feels guilty to show you too much affection, when it's new "Mom" (your oldest daughter) is around, and it only feels safe to do so, when she's not around. Cats, just like some people are more easily tramautized, than others. It is possible, with a lot of love, and reassurance, your cat, will adjust. But, look at it the way, your cat does, it now 'belongs' to your daughter. If the cat is going to remain there, you're going to experience this reaction, until, he feels safe and wanted.
2006-07-23 15:59:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so why do u keep on bothering the cat after you gave him away it is like you are rubbing salt in a wound leave the poor cat alone and let him adjust to his new home without you running over there seeking some kind of attention if you cared that much you would have found a way to keep the cat your visiting is just causing more anxiety for the cat
2006-07-23 16:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by vanessa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just having a bad experience with a neurotic cat.
We moved two years ago with our in and outdoor cat. The plan was to keep him inside for three days to get used to the house. Then let him out. He got out, the afternoon of the second day. Went around the back yard. Chased two other cats away, and then began marking his territory. He was back for dinner within two hour. Went out again, and came back when called in at 9 pm. His normal schedule at the old place. The next day, he was out after breakfast and continued to mark his territory. Found a little place to nest up in. He enjoyed to move, and his new territory.
2006-07-23 15:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by rb_cubed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 10 year old cat was like then when we moved, it was a big change for her, it took her about 6 months to adjust. It takes time but she'll get there, just give her space and time and she'll be fine!
2006-07-23 15:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by *~`~SaRaH~`~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cats are very territorial so they tend to grow very attached to their homes. As with any animal, give kitty some time to get used to the new environment. PLEASE, do not try to force the cat into accepting ANYTHING. This will only make the transition harder. Like I said, just give kitty some time; and if kitty only warms up to you, consider yourself special.
2006-07-24 03:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by weareallcrazy25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard on them, but if you're consistent, kitty should come around in time...
2006-07-23 15:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by jake78745 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will take some time but as time goes by it will get better he just has to get use to it all
2006-07-23 16:00:49 · answer #9 · answered by gigglezdelight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably is mad at you. my cat gets mad at me every time i go on vacation. he'll get over it with time, don't worry.
2006-07-23 15:44:09 · answer #10 · answered by shaped 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋