We have been together for year half we have been great together but lately he has had trouble with one of my children. His friends have been riding him telling him they will not allow him to date a woman like me for having a bi-racial child but he had no troubles when we meet i made sure of it before we became committed. In the past 3 months he has became distant and mean and very racist remarks to me about my child, very cold-hearted toward me. I don't want to subject my child to his abuse he's already punched me in the face for no reason and blacked my eye. But I really did fall head over heals in love with this man and its so hard to kick that feeling rapidly. How do i do this without have a breakdown from loosing him? What would make a man do a complete 360 on you to not give a crap anymore and just act as if he hates me? But at the same time tell me he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I just don't understand it. I want to let him go but don't know how,Pain
2006-07-23 15:12:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is obviously very influenced by his friends. Or maybe he just wants out and is using them as an excuse so he don't look like the bad guy. Whatever the reason, he is a JERK!!!! A real man does not put his hands on a woman. And a real man does not make racist comments towards a child or about a child. I don't care how much you think you love this man, you have to leave him alone. Neither you nor your child need to be around that negativity. I think that you realize that you have to leave him alone and get away from him. And getting over him is not easy. And its not going to be quick. It will just take time. And slowly you will think about him less and less. Eventually you will get over him. In the mean time place yourself around positive people. Stay away from the places that remind you of him. If you think you can't do it just think about your child. Your child doesn't deserve what this man does to you or what he says about your child.
2006-07-23 15:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all being a single parent can be hard, but getting into a relationship that is abusive is dangerous. Dangerous for you and your child. What are you going to do when this jerk starts beating on your child. Your child should be your main priority. For your child sake get out of this before it is to late. Love is blind open your eyes...this isn't love. If he loved you he would never hit you or say racial remarks about your child. Find a women's shelter and get out of this.
2006-07-23 15:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by Single mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has always been this way. He is just now showing his true colors.
For God's sake please drop this guy like a hot cake and DON"T LOOK BACK!
Never let anyone hit you again. you will wind up bad hurt or dead.
Do this for yourself......think of your child!!!!
you think it's painful to let him go???? If you continue this relationship, the pain down the road will be more heartbreaking.
PLEASE.....take the pain now and you can heal.
take more of his crap.and you may not be alive to heal.
2006-07-23 15:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by retta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has serious problems!! GET AWAY FROM HIM NOW!! THAT IS ABUSE!! Next it will be your child!! Don't ever allow some man to say anything to hurt your child or you!!! GET OUT NOW!! Seek out a domestic violence info line and they will be able to help you find a counselor to help you through these issues!! Good luck!! and remember..if he hit you ..your child will be next!!
2006-07-23 15:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by beautifully broken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very hard to move on. it take alot of time and never feel pressured by other to get over it. you will in yr time only. this article has some wonderful reading on breakups and the hurt you go through this might help you understand how yr feeling
2006-07-23 15:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out now and then take it one day at a time and the pain will go away then u will be pissed that u put up with it but really get out or ur pain will grow when your child grows up and ask u why u put them in it get out don't ur in pain now that will never end
2006-07-23 15:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please are you really that stupid to even have to ask for an answer to that question HELLO HE HIT YOU ...here's my response stay with him till he kills you or hurts your kid. When your dead you'll know the answer of how to leave....WAKE UP
2006-07-23 15:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by elliott_tiffney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋