Help!!! I Have an Honesty Problem..i need advice!?

Question

I have a problem. I am too brutally honest. I have told my brother his fiance is ugly, and i have told my next door neighbor she is morbidly obese. Later when i tried to apologise i told her she needed a gastric bypass and some serious lypo cuz is waaaay too big. Am i too brutally honest becuse i am also considering telling my mother to shave her nasty hairy lip. She has a bigger mustache than me and my dad put togeter and all her food gets stuck in it. Tell me what to do before i put my foot in my mouth... am itoo brutally honest???

fr Beki..i don't think a picture will be neccasary. Just FYI...i get asked to do modeling so i am guessing i am not ugly...(Not concieted)

Answer 1

theres is nothing wrong with being honest darling... I do the same....

Answer 2

Well apparently you have a problem with the way people look.
I suspect a bad case of vanity.

I hope following helps you out. You see, you need to understand that everyone is brought into this world looking different for whatever reason nobody knows. You were brought into this world, well as you call yourself " Yes I am the gorgeous one" perhaps better looking than most people. What you might not realize is that sooner or later you will be sympathetic to all these other ppl once you begin to age and your skin begins to shrivel and begin to look ugly yourself. It's part of life... you WILL be there one day. Only then will you be able to be empathize with others.

For your sake, you should try to see this now before it is too late because again, you WILL lose your looks and one day some good looking neighbour might move in next door and one day tell you when you're 60 something...."you need to get a face lift" and at that very moment... all the hurt you inflicted on others will hit you all at once. I hope you understand this sooner than later.

You can be honest but not rude. Perhaps deep down you want to help them by making them realize things that they probably already know. If anything... you should give them tips on 'how' then can better themselves instead of pointing out the obvious.
:)

Answer 3

Darling...there is a difference between pointing something out b/c of concern for someone and being just plain out of line. I hope you would think twice before hurting someone's feelings...especially your mother's feelings. IF you are really concerned about your mother's upper lip (and I have a sneaking suspicion this entire question is meant to be a joke) then I would suggest voicing your concern in the nicest way possible. Maybe bring up that you heard of women waxing their upper lips and ask what she thought of women who do that. Then maybe that can lead into a serious conversation. But don't just come right out and say these things to people. That is being just plain rude.

Answer 4

Yes. There is no reason you needed to say those things. If your brother asked what you thought of his fiance, you should have thought of something nice about her to say. If the lady next door said she was obese, I'm not saying to totally lie, but maybe you could have suggest she eat healthier because being skinny isn't important, but being healthy is. And you should not tell your mother to shave her nasty hairy lip, you should suggest that she get it waxed because then she'd look fabulous.

Answer 5

Even though everyone probably has thoughts like that, most of us keep it inside and not hurt others feelings cause we obviously don't like it when other people bring our flaws up. And the things that you've said, are your own opinions. If you can't help yourself but express out what you think out loud, then maybe say it in a nicer way. Like about your brothers fiance, instead of ugly say "shes not very pretty".

Answer 6

Yes you are too brutally honest. You may not be aware of what is going on in the woman's life and what she may already be doing to help herself. You need to learn to keep a lot of your thoughts to yourself and when someone asks how to say things that won't offend. Honesty is not meant to be a bad thing, but the way you are going about it is.

Answer 7

You better watch out or someone will give you an attitude adjustment and you'll find more than your own foot in your mouth. I think you have an inferiority complex and say rude, nasty things about other people to make yourself feel better and superior. It's easy to pick on the weak. I think you are pathetic. And who died and left you in charge as head people judge.

Answer 8

Take a needle and thread and sew your lips together. Or use a staple gun whatever easiest. To be brutally honest your a JACKASS. Get a hobby like blowing up companions for those who are nymphomaniacs and can't blow up their own dolls. That should keep your mouth busy

Answer 9

you can be honest--but do you really have to say it in a way that hurts peoples feelings??? Sometimes the way people look is beyond their control.. not all cases.. and then to show disrespect to your mother...not good.. Just remember..beauty is in the eye of the beholder... Not everyone has the perfect body..perfect skin..perfect hair..etc..... A person should be thankful for the life they have been given....

Answer 10

I have put my foot in my mouth many times... Now I try to keep somethings to myself so I don't hurt someones feelings.. Now the hair thing on the lip that might be a bit different, It can be removed... She might want to know if you said it nicely.

Answer 11

You are not honest; you are rude and tactless. Did you next door neighbor ask you for your opinion? What, you think she didn't know she weighed a lot?

You need to mind your own business and learn some tact.