Polyamory, is it possible? Would you accept it?

Question

In this dating game, we are like runners. All with one goal - to have that someone special to love and cherish and will also do the same for us.

But not all we hope for will land on our lap. We seek for endless possibilities to get what we want.

Would you indulge in this cunning way of finding true love?

Answer 1

I would answer “yes” to both questions. The answers already given above are good, but I will add a couple of personal observations. One of the most common argument against polyamory is this: “It can’t work because people get jealous…” The people who say this seem to think that their own personal reactions are somehow coded in natural law. As if their own preferences and limitations must be true of everyone. I find it difficult to believe that people don’t see the obvious problem with this, yet I have seen this objection more times than I can count. It is certainly possible to love more than one person at a time, and it is only a deeply misguided allegiance to tradition and fear of mainstream peer pressure that keeps more people from exploring polyamory. My wife and I are open to both swinging and polyamory. We are not jealous, and we are deeply in love. It is simply foolish and insulting for so many people to tell us that our lifestyle is impossible, or that we can’t really be in love, or that we must be lying when we say we are not jealous. These people simply don’t know us. Of course people in non-monogamous relationships sometimes do have to deal with jealousy or other issues stemming from the extra complexities of multiple relationships, but none of this makes polyamory impossible. And many of the challenges are off-set by opportunities and rewards.

Answer 2

I agree that we all have the goal of being loved, but not necessarily by one person. The idea of polyamory is that love is not limited, and that it is possible to love more than one person at a time and be honest about it. Why does it seem it's more acceptable in our society to lie and cheat than to love honestly?

When you have more than one child, do you love one more than the other? How about friends? For some reason, when romance gets put into the equation, all bets are off. But no one would ever try to tell me I can only have one friend, or one child, so why should anyone be able to tell me I can only have one love in my life? Especially if they and I are all fine with it. What I've found is that there are many true loves out there for us...if we are open to them.

Answer 3

Of course!. If we could get this on a ballot, i'd vote for it. The only reason we have marrage between only one man and one woman is because of some moldy, old book of made up stuff called religion.

Several romantic relationships at the same time is the best way for eveyone to get what they want out of it.

Answer 4

yeah Id do it