2006-07-23 14:50:47 · 30 answers · asked by henryskia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I gave him another chance and he cheated again. Most men that cheat will never change. I understand that people screw up and make mistakes. And that some people are truly sorry for what they have done. But its the ones who don't give a crap and keep hurting people who give "cheaters" their "once a cheater, always a cheater" image. So the answer to your question, no.
2006-07-23 14:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First - Are you married?
If you are not.. walk away - Dr Phil teaches "that we teach people how to treat us" - if you are with someone that is cheating and you are not married - he is not done "playing" you do not deserve that kind of disrespect!
If you are married - then it is time to find out why he is "stepping out" and FIX the problem... communication is key and imperative to making a marriage work. If you know for sure that he is - don't be afraid to confront the issue (remember to do it out of love not anger) and tell him that you want to help repair the damage.
You said your vows knowing that "one day" this might be an issue... we all know, but few speak about those little worries - we try to make sense of things and move forward - if you are married then you owe it to the relationship to at least try.
Good luck!
2006-07-23 22:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by T ¸¸.â?¢*´¸¸.â?¢*´¨L ¨`*â?¢.¸¸¨`*â?¢.¸¸ T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots and lots of women will forgive. But the thing is if ur gonna forgive u have to realize that it's gonna take a lot of forgiving and that whomever cheated needs to WIN back ur trust- because for some thats a one strike ur out thing.
So if ur gonna forgive for ur mate cheating then u both have to want ur relationship to work
2006-07-23 21:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough question. Twenty years ago when the kids were little, I probably would have given him another chance. But now the kids are gone. I think I would walk away.
2006-07-23 21:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on how much you love him...and the extent of the cheating...and how long he had been cheating.... But I don't think I would give him another chance...
2006-07-23 21:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After the first time the trust is gone, it would take a lot for me to trust him again. But if he is extremely sorry, and I know in my heart he wouldn't do it again he can gain my trust back. I believe people can change.
2006-07-23 21:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by SmileyGeek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone who gave chance after chance and he is still cheating at the age of 78!!!!!!!!
2006-07-23 21:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rule is, once a cheater always a cheater. He will never change. He did it once, its very possible that he will do it again. And if he does, it will just hurt you even more. If he did it in the first place then he didnt really love you.
2006-07-23 22:03:53 · answer #8 · answered by thoroughbred_chick_123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in this situation before.. and i did forgive him.. i forgave him cause i felt that i truly love him and had the heart to forgive him and try again.. if i don't truly love him, i doubt i can make myself forgive him.. main thing is after you've forgiven him, can you still face him like before.. cuz if you can't, it simply means that you are just saying that you forgive him, but deep down you never really forgive him.. and that means thins will just become worst.. cuz it's all fake.. the forgiving will just be words not from the heart!
2006-07-23 22:06:53 · answer #9 · answered by cqj84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that, been together for 13 years, 8 since then. It works only if you both want it to.
2006-07-23 21:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by Cat C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋