My ex boyfriend and I dated for a little over a year, and we just recently broke up about 3-4 weeks ago. About 2 weeks after we broke up, he began dating another girl. He now tends to IM me and tell me about how "incredibly happy he is" ect. He's even called me in the middle of the night to talk about her. He was my first serious relationship, my first love, and my first real heartbreak. We spent every waking moment together during the year we dated. It absolutely kills me to see pictures of the two of them together, kissing, or his away messages on AIM proclaiming his love for her. I've lost so much sleep over this. I've even been struggling with bodily issues such as lack of eating. Although my ex and I remain friends, he sometimes acts very bitter towards me and says things such as "We should hang out! oh wait...ONLY IN YOUR DREAMS" ect. I'm currently dating a former close friend of his, so maybe hes jealous? I'm so confused!
2006-07-23 14:26:23 · 17 answers · asked by Kaley J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow, sounds like hes not over u, he is just trying to make u jealous b/c he probably thinks you are!!
2006-07-23 14:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. First of all, (I don't know if you are) you shouldn't date his close friend just to get back at him because your boyfriend might really like him, and think you're really into him. Second, talk to your ex. And tell him EXACTLY how you feel. Tell him that if he's going to shove his girlfriend in your face, then you can't be friends. Say that he broke your heart and it doesn't make anything better when he says stuff like that. Tell him you're not jealous, but it's annoying and you hate it. If after that he still proceeds with the "make-her-jealous" act, tell him you can't be friends. It's too much stress for you to take. <3.
2006-07-23 21:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by country_comfort16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you did something to hurt him bad or he's just a dog like most. Well I suppose you should get yourself a sexy,strong rebound that will let him know that you don't give a damn about his sorry new relationship. If you can't then make something up with lots of things that you know will get to him including what the new guy does that he didn't do or do right.Tell him your glad you guys broke up because you wouldn't of met this guy and wouldn't of known that there could be something way better out there just waiting for you. Tell him his weenie is way littler than your new hunk and add some details about how respectful he is and how he takes you places. This is all just to get him to quit boasting(bragging).
2006-07-23 21:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by blondearies123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is no friend. You can block user on IM, or at least ignore him. If you know he's calling, don't answer the phone. If you don't have caller ID, change your phone number. Avoid contact with this jerk. He is sadistic. When you RUIN HIS GAME by refusing to play it, he'll stop. He is an asshole and you deserve better. Make it a game yourself by proving to yourself that you can block ALL attempts of his to humiliate you this way. Treat him as a non-existent person who doesn't matter - but secretly pray to God that he will be revelated. Don't become bitter about it - this would only hurt you. But he's a big boy and he needs to start acting like one. Force him to act like an adult by refusing to give him opportunity to continue acting like an ***.
2006-07-23 21:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by Shalom Yerushalayim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah well, have sex with his BEST friend not just a close friend.. he'll be pretty pissed.. I don't think that will help you deal with it so much though.. but you got a new guy so focus on him and call his *** in the middle of the night and tell him how happy you are even if you aren't... and don't be his friend
2006-07-23 21:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by awesome_eo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is his way of showing his jealosy he needs help!! cut him out of your life, block his emails, remove him from your IM lists, screen your calls, he will eventually get the message. If he acts that way, he doesn't want to be friends. Stand up for your self and say "I'm better than all of this." Let him be consumed ny what ever he is feeling, don't let him drag you down with him.
2006-07-23 21:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by bung_7250 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get a life. My exhusband tries to do that to me and I just ignore him. Keep him as your ex because he is way too immature. He's a jerk. Don't even hang out with him as "friends". You are a better person than he is.
2006-07-23 21:30:06 · answer #7 · answered by PuttPutt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know ur gonna say "how" but you hafta ignore him. My ex did this to me and I almost died. Once I stopped showing interest, he stopped playin games. Dont answer your phone when he calls. Delete his messages. Dont answer his IM. IGNORE HIM. He's not worth it. How can u call him a friend if he treats you like this?? Leave him be. Its like in grade school with kids pickin on you. If you stop showin that it hurts, they stop doin it. Just know ur not alone. : )
2006-07-23 21:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by JP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is jealous, and he is also in a rebound relationship. I suggest you cut off all contact with him. It isn't helping you, it's only prolonging your pain. Sorry for your heart break, and good luck.
2006-07-23 21:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to move on and put him completely out of your life apparently he wants to hurt you and make you jealous he sounds like a creep find someone else
2006-07-23 21:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by piper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋