I hav been on and off w/this man 2 and a half years ,he says he's not in love w/me anymore but he still acts like we r together and we are not together. So I think he is just using my feeling for him to his advantage. My problem is I dont kno how to let go of my feelings for him. I feel like he has this hold on me and I can't get away. I know he is just using but I cant let go. GOD PLEASE SUMONE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-23 14:08:25 · 15 answers · asked by bitter 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this sucks and from what your saying i think your right he has a power trip and loves controling you. you already know the truth is the only thing that will help is time as far as a broken heart but you summoned god please so i will give you his wisdom found in the bible he said all things happen for a reason and also he said he would not put more on you then you can handle.... the last thing you should do is sleep with him you loose the power and more self esteem its time for you to find yourself and realize the man you need is out there and if your with this guy you stand to miss a really loving guy who wants to hold you and nurse your broken heart back to life, hang in there. if you cut ties the hurt only last a short time but if you allow him to continue this game the hurt will continue untill you are rid of him and youll still have to go through another greiving period . good luck hun we feel your pain....
2006-07-23 14:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by joe 4 · 15⤊ 3⤋
It is not easy to let go of someone you are so accustomed to having, holding and loving, old habits are hard to break but I have good news; it can be done. I encourage you to make a step in a new direction, try not to dwell on it so much, develop a new focus don't allow yourself to become an old rug. Go somewhere new, walk down some new paths variety is the spice of life. Take it from some who has been there and I am an over-comer!!!!!!
2006-07-23 14:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by Melody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this man has flat out told u that he is not in love with u any more, and ur still sticking around ur playing the fool. I KNOW its hard to walk away from someone u love but you are just hurting yourself on a daily basis. there is someone out there that will love u just the way u are. it doesn't matter what u think is wrong wit u or what ur x thinks is wrong wit u someone will love it. no matter how impossible it feels move on any way u can. even a kick in the *** is a forward motion
2006-07-23 14:17:17 · answer #3 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whine, whine, whine.....this story is repeated so many times on Yahoo! He is using you for sex....and you choose to comply. I do not feel sorry for you at all. Stop communicating with, seeing him and everything else you do with him. Make a decison to find other things to do with other people....it is up to you and not the people on Yahoo! If you continue to try to change the situation then you get what you ask for.
2006-07-23 14:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I am sorry you have to go through that. It is such a horrible feeling. One thing you have to do is stop letting yourself be used. It is so hard because you want to be with him, but you know you shouldn't. If he calls, try hard not to answer. If he texts, try hard not to reply. Call your best friend instead. It does get easier with time, but it isn't easy. Ugggh.
2006-07-23 14:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see...you love him but he told you he doesn't love you...you want to let go of him but he keeps hanging around...you feel used but you don't get angry.. That's it...face reality...get angry...Right now, go to a mirror and look at the reflection. Does that person in the mirror deserve something better, does she deserve to have a man that loves her? Yes, she does. Now, kick that loser out.
2006-07-23 14:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by Chainsawmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love him as a friend and as human. Channel your feelings elsewhere.
Stop and really think about the course of your relationship. When you really look back over it objectivly not what you want to see. Trust me you will get over Him.
2006-07-23 14:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by Mavey D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a little "research" and figure out if he's using u for real, and if u see him with another woman, u can then completely push him over the edge. Hope I helped. Good Luck!! :)
2006-07-23 14:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by MADRA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey i will come back and check on other's answers for this because when someone can tell you the answer for this I would love to know - I can't let go of a love either at the moment - damn love.
2006-07-23 14:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by love earth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. Have family and friends help with this!!! I know you do not like being used or you would not have asked for help!!!! Keep busy and keep away and soon those feelings will be gone!!!
2006-07-23 14:13:42 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋