My dad and mom want me to choose I want to live with. I am only 12 about to turn 13.
2006-07-23 13:48:26 · 12 answers · asked by ♥Caiti♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sorry, but that does sound a bit unfair of your parents.
But keep in mind, they are not asking who you think is the better parent, and they are definitely NOT asking them who you love more - likely, you love them equally for many different reasons.
Still, it must be a difficult time, and they want to know with whom you would be most comfortable at this stage of your life?
And you really do have to be a bit selfish in your choice. What is the best choice for you? ... not for mom, not for dad.
It's a tough time and you need to take care of yourself. So, please, do just that !!!
Good luck !!!
2006-07-23 13:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by pezdispenserwisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it it unfair. They should not be putting that kind of pressure and guilt on you. If you want to be fair about it and not hurt either parents feelings then maybe you could live with one parent for 6 months then live with the other for 6 months. I suggest this to make YOUR life a little easier. It sounds like they are too caught up in their own feelings that they have forgotten about yours and your well being should be their #1 priority. It's OK for you to tell them that they are being unfair and that you shouldn't have to choose between them. Whatever problems they have with each other should not involve you.
2006-07-23 14:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TOTALLY. They ought to be ashamed of themselves. You need some help here sweetie, try and find an adult you feel you can talk to - a teacher might be a good idea. They have no right to put such a massive decision on your shoulders. I am sorry for what you are going through and beg you to get some advice, even if it is from Childline or the like, so that you can stay focused on making your own way in the world and not feel responsible your parents.
Love, happiness and good luck.
2006-07-23 13:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by Tatsbabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They just want to make sure you are happy. You are entering into pre-adulthood and they are making sure they are not forcing something on you that you don't want. It will be difficult but you know what you want and need better than they do.
It is not unfair for them to make you choose. It is unfair is one of them tries to make you feel guilty about your choice. Let them both know how much you love them, but you can't be split in two, you must make a choice and you don't want either of them to be hurt. You are very mature for your age and I hope this isn't too much for you. Good luck.
2006-07-23 13:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is unfair,,,, because you know darn well who ever you choose, the other is going to be hurt...So, how about this,,,,sit them down together have them write there names down on a piece of paper,,,then put it in a bowl close your eyes and choose,,,maybe they will see how stupid they are being,,or maybe they will accept the decision, either way YOU will not be actually making the decision!!
2006-07-23 14:12:29 · answer #5 · answered by smt1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got divorced, I let my kids choose who they wanted to live with. I love all of my kids, even the ones who chose to live with their father. Your parents are being very respectful of your feelings and want you to be happy. Make your choice. If it doesn't work out, ask to live with the other parent.
2006-07-23 14:20:50 · answer #6 · answered by PuttPutt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents aren't trying to make you choose who you love more or who cares for you better, which sounds like the way you're feeling... You simply need to decide which household you feel more comfortable living in. Neither should be upset with your decision.
2006-07-23 16:41:09 · answer #7 · answered by junebug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its unfair because its cruel to divide a child's love for his/her parents. Your parents should think twice before taking the final decision.
2006-07-23 13:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by meghabalika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not a baby molester. in accordance to Islamic history, even notwithstanding Prophet Mohammed P.b.u.h married his spouse 'Aisyah at the same time as she is amazingly youthful, the Prophet Mohammed Pbuh purely have sexual relationship mutually with his spouse 'Aisyah after she has attained puberty.
2016-10-15 09:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if they don't tell you to choose, most kids your age have ways of choosing anyway.
Choose.
2006-07-23 13:52:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋