I am 18 and my "boyfriend" is 22. Friday night he decided he was going to cheat on me with a 38 year old! And then last night, he tried hooking up with some blonde chick. There is no way in hell I am going to work things out with him, but he thinks I am vunerable enough to try to fix things. Any ideas on getting back, or maybe even?
2006-07-23 13:37:56 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, the best way to get back at him.
Dont
Dont cry to your friends or his friends and Family
Dont ignore him. Smile. Be polite, but cool. Cordial as if you were talking to the poor school out cast and you are just a nice person
Dont sit at home. Go out with your friends and have something to do always.
Dont talk to him about the relationship, if he talks to you or trys to call you, take his call, be polite, and if he tries to talk about the relationship, change the topic and get off of the phone.
Dont obsess about revenge. Get on with your life. It's the best revenge of all
The best "revenge" though is the story of my mother. Once she had a boyfriend that did something similar. And when she was home one summer her ex called her and asked "Can I come over" She said sure. But by the time he came over she was gone on another date.
He didnt ask if he could see her!
Regardless, the best way to get back at him is to act like everything is normal and you are going on with your life. It will eat him up. AND to top it off it will help you grow as a person and get over this crap. AND your friends and family will have soo much respect for you. AND you will look back on yourself one day and have tons of respect for yourself by not getting down to his level and playing petty games.
2006-07-23 13:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by RockStarinTx 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-06 03:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away, don't look back. When he calls, don't take the call. When he shows up, tell him NO, not interested, leave you alone or you will be forced to have a restraining order placed on him. If he continues to follow you, charge him with stalking. Typically, he will not come back, so you won't have to go to these lengths. Don't waste any energy on this guy, you will find that it is not worth the time, you will also find that there is never "even enough" if you go this route. Revenge is very hollow. Take the higher road, invest your energy into positive things and it will pay off. Negative energy never pays well, and often results in bad things happening to you. Good luck
2006-07-23 13:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 18.....
There are all sorts of guys out there.
I wasted time in relationships that were just screwed up when I was younger and I regret the time I wasted.
Move on.
You are only 18.
Theres nothing to fix.
I am 54 and still kick myself in the *** for being involved for a few years with woman that was a pain in the *** bee eye itch. I still think..."what the hell was I doing with her when I coulda been in NYC seeing Frank Zappa when he was doing holloween show?"
I coulda been hanging out in after hours places.
But noooo....I am sitting in New jersey with a bee eye itch
Do you know how bee eye itchy she was?
I was USCG station near philly.
I would get off mid watch about seven in the morning. Take Greyhound or Trailways from Philly to NYC arriving around noon.
She worked during the day.
She would get hyper cranky if I spent the afternoon in NYC.
And would be all pissed off.
And would play stupid games like.."if you don't know why I am angry...blah blah blah blah blah"
riddles.
I am on Liberty from my Coast guard gig and I have to listen to riddles.
Don't ask me why.
I suspect it was just an excuse to bee eye itch.
And when I would suggest going to NYC on a Saturday night....she wasn't into it.
I could go on and on and on.
About the worst mistake I could have made was knocking her up.
And thank god that didn't happen
Move on.
It ain't worth the effort.
Isn't it a bit about the nagging fear of NOT BEING WITH A GUY?
Can that notion.
So what if you ain't with a guy for a while.
And don't go out there hunting...it will just make you appear desperate and that attracts a certain type of guy that will just give you more aggravation.
I am amazed at the young girls who think their lives are over at 16 or 18 and that they have to work things out with a guy that treats them like she eye it.
Move on.
Vulnerable shmulnerable.
Ditch the psychobabble also.
2006-07-23 13:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a ketchup bottle in his house thats about half empty, put about 5-6 spoon fulls of baking soda in it and move it around a bit so he cant tell, then when he shakes it up to poor it, it comes out all over the playce like a rocket gone wrong. i have much more in my head but i dont know how bad u wanna get him!
2006-07-23 13:45:26 · answer #5 · answered by meismisunderstood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting back ,Getting even?? Don't even waste you time,get going !! Get away and stay away from him , he is bad news and bad for you!! He is not worth your time or effort .I would say the best thing you could do is get Dr. Laura Schlessinger 's book "Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up There Lives "!Read it cover to cover !!!
Trust me on this,if a man will run around on you once , he will continue this behavior!! ASK YOURSELF ...IS that what I want in my life???
2006-07-23 13:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by Kittycolt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him one time that u split up now and ur not going to argue about it or talk it out! tell him u made u decision and thats it! if u really wanna quit, ignore him and dont let him get u again or let him talk u to a relationship again! he didnt even cheat u once but twice and sounds like he doesnt even feel bad about it! he doesnt deserve u! forget him, u can do a lot better! good luck
2006-07-23 13:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by simi1808 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get back at him by simply breaking up with him. Theres no reason for you to stand around and try figuring out a way to get him back. It worthless because you might be the one who actually gets hurt really bad in the end.
2006-07-23 13:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a juvenile way of thinking. Be mature about the situation, just leave him, and grow up a little before starting another relationship.
2006-07-23 13:41:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, just move on with your life and don't look back. Obviously he doens't want to be with you or he would not be cheating on you so much. You can't get even with men, all you will do is turn yourself into a "whore" if you sleep around with other men. Don't do it, it is not worth it.
2006-07-23 13:40:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋