So I love this girl and she is my friend, so she doesn't know that I love her, we have known each other for a year, but have been actively socializing for a couple of weeks now. DO you think I should tell her I love her, or would that scare her off, make a fool of me and ruin the relationship?
2006-07-23 13:36:41 · 26 answers · asked by G-Unit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Start with LIKE first. Trust me on this!
2006-07-23 13:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT TELL HER YOU LOVE HER!
yes it probebly will scare her off if she does not feel the same way, and then she wont even want to be friends with you! so if i was you, i would hang out with her more and just slowly get closer to her, and then when you see she likes you back then you can takes things a step further.. but dont tell her you love her till way later on when you pretty much know she will say it back..
2006-07-23 20:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by SARA F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is way too soon to tell her that you love her. Just continue seeing her socially. Ask her for dates and after you've gone out for awhile you will get an idea of how she feels about you. When you have a better idea of how the relationship is going then you may want to tell her that you love her.
2006-07-23 20:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by papricka w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by asking her out to a non confrontational spot like Starbucks and begin to build the relationship. When you are done say, I really enjoyed our time together. Why don't we do this again? If she says yes, you are on your way. I definitely would NOT tell her I loved her until you learned she had definitive feelings for you (and that might take a while but who cares?). In the mean time you are with her and enjoying her company and hopefully it is reciprocal. Go for it!
2006-07-23 20:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait a little while. Just make sure you keep asking her out and get close to her. Try to get a feel for what she feels for you. However I would tell her soon. But wait maybe a month or so and then break it to her when the time is right. She may be receptive. Who knows she may love you too.
2006-07-23 20:40:43 · answer #5 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn from my mistake. DON'T tell her "I love you". It will freak her out. However, you should consider asking out on a date first.
In my situation, I had known my friend for a year and a half, and when I told her "I love you" over the phone, she said "I'm flattered, but I only think of you as a friend". Fortunately, six years later we are still friends.
2006-07-23 20:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by Dr Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are interested in you deffinally need to tell her your feelings. she is your friend she will not laugh at you or think any less of you she just may be flattered. if you like someone you shouldn't hold your feelings inside let the other person know just how your feeling because she may be just as shy as you are and may feel the same way she could just be afraid like you. you never know until you tell her exactly how your feeling. you never know she could be "The one for you" if you want some thing you have to go for it dont let it just slip threw your finger tips. Good luck.
2006-07-23 20:42:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont straight up ask her that might scare her if she doesnt like u but tlk to her girl friends and see who or even if shes interested in anyone then spend some time alone with her hang out get to know her even better then slowly take it to the next step but make sure she feels comfortable and make it clear to her after a while that you really dont wanna screw things up cause she means a lot to u
2006-07-23 20:40:12 · answer #8 · answered by chaos... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah if you're JUST friend the "i love you" thing might be a little much a little fast. but you know your friend. you've known her over year do YOU think it would scare her? my advice is to wait a while maybe show her you like her as more than a friend but don't spring it all at once. you know her though I don't just use common sense and your knowledge of who she is. good luck man!
2006-07-23 20:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by Bee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her for a day and have loads of fun, then go somewhere quiet and talk 2 her about your relationship with her and that u really like her.hope u can be happy with her.but DO NOT dump all your feelings on her at the same time, talk 2 her kinda slow, and see what her reaction is.
2006-07-23 20:42:25 · answer #10 · answered by LonelyPsycho...I Need A Hug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about your feelings. The best relationships go from friends to dating and if the dating doesn't work back to friends.
2006-07-23 20:41:15 · answer #11 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋