What is going to be my boyfriend's reaction when he finds out that he is gonna be dad in his 14?

Question

We are both 14.I recently found out that I am pregnant .I didn't tell my boyfriend yet cause i am scared.I dont know how he is gonna react on that.Can u consult me...tell me what should i say to him.Should i act normal or be nervous?I am really scared.I am 98 % sure that h is gonna accept the child but its not simple for me to say ''you are gonna be father''
I need help..What if he yells at me?What if....oh i don't know.I feel i need to tell someone that i am pregnant.I can't hide it no more .What should i do?

Answer 1

To the fellow answerer's, Judge not unless you be judged yourself.

Now to answer the question you need to tell your mother girl! Forget about what the daddy is going to say it is your body, your life that will be effected for the rest of it. You need help and support not judgement.

Go to your mother and tell her not to yell but you need to ask her a question say that you think you may be pregnant. Take it from there. Then at least you'll know where you stand in regards to what to do. In some cultures it is normal for girls to be married and pregnant at that age. I take it from your question that this does not apply to you.

If you play grown up games you have to face up to the responsibilities too. If you can tell your mother seek out a aunt or female relation they can go with you to tell your mother and boyfriend. Best of luck with it all.

Your life has changed forever regardless of what you do from here on...

Answer 2

There is no way u can predict how he is going to react. He may be horrified or devastated. The both of you are so young and have so much ahead of u. Now your teenage years are being taken away from u so that u can look after a child of your own.

I bet it was hard for your parents as well. Dont be hurt with him however which way he acts. He has the right to feel that way. But give him time to think this through, he deserves that. Also dont hold this back from him for long. The longer u hold off or lie the harder it is going to be for the both of u to hold the relationship after the baby is born. Be careful next time and ensure that u practise safe sex with BOTH a condom and the contraceptive pill. Its usually 99% affective.

Answer 3

Why are you having sex at 14 anyway? Shouldn't you be more concerned about music, sports, cartoons, and what snack you'll have when you get home from school.

Anyway, I would recommend having your parents or gaurdian take you to a gynecologist and make sure that you are pregnant before you say anything to your boyfriend.

If you are pregnant at 14 you have every right to be nervous. It will change your life forever. Think about it, by the time you graduate from high school your kid would be 3 or 4 years old.

If you find that you are pregnant and scared to tell your boyfriend then have one of your parents (or gaurdians) tell his parents. Either that or you flat out tell him that you are pregnant yourself.

I just hope that he actually takes responsibility for the child.

Answer 4

What, you haven't told anyone you are pregnant? The first thing you need to do is tell your parents. You're going to need their help to make the right decision, and to raise the baby if you decide to keep it. There are many couples waiting to adopt, and they are very carefully screened to make sure they will be good parents, so please consider that as an option. You are so young to be having a child. So is your boyfriend, so please don't expect too much from him. You'll have to tell him eventually, but if he yells at you- well what kind of guy would do that? He's just as much responsible for this situation as you are. Now you know first hand why teenagers shouldn't be having sex. I'm sorry this happened.

Answer 5

First of all, discuss this with your parents. Has your pregnancy been confirmed????? YES, your boyfriend has to be told if in fact you are pregnant. Too bad if he yells at you. He doesn't have that right. He's just as reponsible for the pregnancy as you are; the problem is, neither of you used protection.
At 14 you shouldn't be having sex and if you think you're mature enough, you didn't think of the consequences like PROTECTION. Were you stupid enough to think, 'this is my first time, so it won't happen?' That's all it takes is one time. He too should have made sure he bought condoms. No glove, no love...it's that simple.

Answer 6

Go to your parents first. Then sit down with your boyfriend and start talking about how much the two of you love each other. And the calmly tell him. If he loves you and is any kind of guy he'll stay with you and love you and your baby. If he runs away from this, he's not the type of guy you want and you and your baby will deserve better. Your all's parents may be the biggest hurtle. I'm sure your boyfriend will stay with you, just be careful about how you appoarch both set of parents. It will be hard.

Answer 7

How mature are you both? I really tend to question that considering your circumstances, but that is what it boils down to. He will respond with regard to his maturity level. He will also respond with the same feelings you have...fear, uncertainty, etc. How did you react to the news? He may react similarly. There is also the possibility of his denial. He may accuse you of "infidelity". He may react very calmly. Be honest with him. Do not accuse him; just be honest and calm. He and you both have a great responsibility. Tell your parents. They should help you. In the end, this is your baby.

Answer 8

http://www.bbc.co.uk/insideout/southeast/series7/charver_dads.shtml
http://www.teenbreaks.com/guys/guyshome.cfm
http://www.wordinc.org/futures/fathers.php
How your parents take it will be key. The boy will need a lot of support. So will you. Have you told your parents yet? Maybe a priest can help you. Look at these sites, there is a lot there! Show them to him.
http://www.teenrelationships.org
http://www.yppo.com/
You will fight, all couples do. You both must get relationship counselling, and baby care counselling.
Childhood is over for you, now. Accept help.

Answer 9

Whew!

He may react in several different ways.

Anger, mistrust, doubt, elation, confusion, denial, joy and a host of other emotions.

If he yells at you just realize he is in shock.

You need to see a doctor immediately, family doctor, free clinic, whatever.

You need to speak to your parents immediately.
You AND your parents need to speak to his parents as soon as possible.

It is no good trying to hide this from anyone. Be brave and face up to this situation. You are going to need all the help you can get.

Good luck, little sister.

Answer 10

Worry about the reactions of the parents involved in this little teen drama---- You best let your folks know first since they will be the ones having to fork out money --- since you two aren't old enough to work and support yourselves and a baby.... your life is going to change drastically and young papa will be out of the picture --- notice all the single moms raising babies....where's dad?