My boyfriend was lying to me about talking to his ex-girlfriend while me and him where together.I found out that he was talking to her because I ent through his cell phone and even though that might sound crazy my suspisions were right Now I am having the worst time trusting him.We broke up when I found out about him and his ex girlfriend and he insisted he wanted to work things out ,but if he did really care that it hurt me why did he continue to talk to her when he was trying to work things out with me? Is he gueniune or just bull s!@#ing me?
2006-07-23 13:27:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree, it would be hard to trust him, especially since he lied to you. He and his ex may have decided to part as friends, but if he was talking to her strictly as a friend he should have been honest and transparent and told you about it. Now you won't know when he's telling the truth and when he's lying.
2006-07-23 13:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by musiclover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did not say was he just talking to her or was he tring to get back with her. In talking with my wife she seems to think you should have not went threw his cell phone in the first place. As she puts it you did not trust him in the first place and loving someone is also trusting him. Talking with an ex is not cheating because they are a part of his past and they very well may be friends. We both seem to think that you may be a little on the insecure side with your feelings. I do hope you and him can work this out but you do need to understand what love is and understand trust.
2006-07-23 20:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by justduh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately once you have lost the trust it is very very hard to restore. You will keep finding yourself wanting to go through his phone,wanting to know what he is up to and dwelling on it all. If he really loved you then what did he want with his ex girlfriend? He has screwed up once and you have taken him back..and he continued to talk to her. Its called having the cake and eating it too. Dont you think you deserve someone better? Good luck
2006-07-23 20:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm i have been in your shoes before with the person that i am with now. i found out he was talking to this girl named Ashley and i found out more that he was having phone sex with her and cybering with her and then at one time wanted to meet her. i was furious. he told me that she was prettier than me and he also ran to her everytime we had a problem. so if the worst thing hes doing is just talking to her then your probably safe. it shouldnt matter if hes talking to her and as long as hes not cheating on you or doing things like cybering with her and having phone sex then you should be alright. hes probably not a bad guy and you should give him the benifit of the doubt. tell him how it makes you feel when he talks to her and if he cares about your feelings he will listen.
2006-07-23 20:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by a_beautiful_mind09139 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is kinda what happend to me except my boyfiend never dated her.. they just liked each other they no longer like each other but they did once befor me and him became boyfriend and girlfriend but she still bothered me just becuase she tried being my friend and then just talked crap about me and just because it was her but anyways....while me and my boyfiend where dating he told me he was going up to this cabin with his friends i asked him if there was going to be any girls up there and he told me no..well i found out that Rachel was up there( the girl he liked) and it hurt me so bad that he lied to me..well i asked him once about it and he told me no no she was not up there and i just knew she was its a girls instinct ya know? then i asked him the next day did you lie to me and he said no Samantha why would i lie to you i love you..but i knew he was leing because i looked at his friends myspace and she wrote the cabin is going to be soo fun..well i said to him if you dont tell me now and i find out later me and you will no longer be together..well he told me and i cried and he cried..well enough about my story lets get to what i did and maybe you can take the advice...well...it was hard for me to trust him after that...it killed me inside that he lied to me and i didnt understand why he did it but he did.. he told me that he would never lie to me again...pphh...yeah rite huh? thats what i was thinking..well so far he has not lied at all since that day..it was about a month and a half ago..and me and him are still together i forgave him but i told him only one more chance and thats it...me and him are still together and i love him with all of my heart...i did what my heart told me to do and we are very happy together....i think that if you really love him and you want to be with him then stay with him...tell him that you cant take a lie and that it hurt you really badly and tell him only one more chance and thats it!! i hope i helped sorry its so long and sorry that i talked about me and my story i thought it might help you a little. good luck!!
2006-07-23 20:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by Samatha P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um... just because he was talking to her doesn't mean that it was going any farther. i still talk to my ex's but that does not mean that there is any more feelings then friendship. you should ask him and talk to him and if he says he really loves you and there was nothing more then you should really give him another chance!
2006-07-23 20:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by ♥nikki♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is bullshi*ting you. This type of guy thinks he can get away with anything. If you love yourself, move on.
2006-07-23 20:33:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
once bitten twice shy. be weiry of this if he has done this once he will do it again. not worth staying in a relationship like that
2006-07-23 20:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is friends with his ex still. Just ask him what his real intentions are with his ex. and i would still be on guard.
2006-07-23 20:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by hotchic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAVENT U EVER HEARD OF THAT OLD SAYING ONCE A LIAR ALWAYS A LIAR....
2006-07-23 20:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by dana_cox99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋