I have aboyfriend who is 14 years older than me. We live 2gether but can't seem 2 talk about anything meaningful. I am a very open person and I don't hide 2 much of anything from him. He read my diary about a month ago and read on something were i said the guy n my past was 1 of the only men i've ever loved.That guy got married. I was hurt because not only are he and i supposed 2 b friends, I didn't even know that he was getting married and I wasn't invited 2 the wedding. back 2 my delima.. I love this man that I am with. He posted a question on here but the question didn't reveal the true me. I got up set because I saw the question and the way he worded it made me look like I am just using him. That is not the case. True, 1 of his cars is always at my disposal, but the false comes n when he said that i don't work. I just quit my job last month...before that, I worked everyday for 40 hours a wk. And am n the process of getting another job. what can i possibly do 2 prove my love?
2006-07-23 13:22:08 · 14 answers · asked by pocahontas2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him that!
2006-07-23 13:25:38 · answer #1 · answered by ouwx104 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their is no real way to prove your love to him or to any one other than how you act around him and how you treat him. Him reading your diary was not fair to you cause that is a private thought that you put into words. If telling him and showing him in everyday action does make him see the love you have for him then nothing will.
From what you posted about your ex it might be also that he is not really sure how you feel towards him with so much feelings still being with your ex. Not being able to talk about any meaningful things could be due to you part of the conversation as well as his. It might help each of you if you could sit down and go threw everything and how each of you feel.
2006-07-23 20:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by justduh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not try telling him all the stuff you just wrote. But in a calm way. Tell him how you feel and that you aren't trying to use his things without contributing. Sometimes people do stupid things when they are mad. Sounds like you have some baggage with this previous man and that you need to get over that too and forget about him and move on to what you have in front of you.
2006-07-23 20:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by hotchic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Flustered young lady,
I'm Rocky Love at petroslove@yahoo.com
#1: He invaided your privacy; your diary is for you only!!!
#2: He degraded you on the Internet in the visual presence
of 100's, mabe thousands of people !!! He only loves himself, and he's able to get out of you sexually, or he would have left
you when he read your dairy !!!
# 3: Leave him or he'll only hurt you more, mabe even physically in a violent manner !!!
# 4 : I'm available for counciltation, or for you if you deside !!!
# 5 : Email me for your immeadate needs
2006-07-23 20:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to prove anything. Just be very honest with him. It was a breach of privacy that he read your innermost thoughts and especially to not communicate with you about it more to understand why you wrote what you did. You are allowed to have a past and loving someone else then was just fine. Tell him you love him too and are happy you are with him - that's all you can do. He has to get over his insecurity issues by himself.
2006-07-23 20:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With holding emotions from a relationship is a sign of possible abuse. My concern is that you are wanting to "prove your love" and that is a also a sign that you might be feeling that abuse. It sounds like he has a hard time opening up to you. Try to talk to him about it. How vested are you in this relationship? Would talking to a therapist help you two?
2006-07-23 20:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought the other guy was the only other guy you ever really loved???
Maybe you need to tell the new guy that your with that that was just diary talk...that after he dumps you...then he will get to be the only other guy you ever loved.
Or you could lie and say that you got the dates mixed up.....
What a tangled web we weave when first we learn to lie.
2006-07-23 20:36:19 · answer #7 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find some meaning in the realationship if he really means something 2 you, have a romantic night together 2 prove your love, make sure u are happy and so is he, then.....cuddle and watch a movie
2006-07-23 20:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by LonelyPsycho...I Need A Hug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could move into your own place and date him. It seems you don't trust each other. Without trust you don't have anything. Try dating him and others for awhile and see what you both really want.
2006-07-23 20:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by papricka w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUH!!! Hello??? He is USING you for sex....can't you see that? You are immature and stupid! Move out and make a life for yourself. Try counseling for your self esteem! I see this same story all the time on Yahoo.....what is wrong with you.....trying to solve your problems on Yahoo????? Get a job and get a life and stop mooching off of men!
2006-07-23 20:27:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cook him dinner....treat him like a man wants to be treated....he'll get the picture...
2006-07-23 20:36:43 · answer #11 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋