HI. Me and my bf are buying a new house (over 400 grand)?

Question

anyways, we are currently fixing up our current home to be on the market in a few days.
The thing is, NO ONE, will give us a hand, but when they needed help guess who was there.
This is family and friends.
No one seems happy for us either, they say "why do you need a ******* new house for" litterally those words.
But when they bought their homes and needed help fixing, we helped.
Funny, whenever we call u p someone for help they always make an excuse.
WHY?
I thought family was suppose to be happy for family.

How the **** is this conceided???

Everyone gets help by us and no one gives it back...concieted...okay then.

BTW I NEVER GAVE AN ACTUALL PRICE!
ITS NOT A MANSION...WE LIVE IN CANADA!'
THIS IS NORMAL FOR A HOUSE!

We are a common law marriage...we have been together for over 5 years and have kids!
And if my friend or family didnt ask about the price then they wouldnt be told it.

OMG PEOPLE...WE HAVE ALREADY BOUGHT ONE HOUSE LONG AGO...look at tim robbins and suzan saradon or goldie hawn and kurt russel.

Answer 1

Well I think the part where you said "HI. Me and my bf are buying a new house (over 400 grand)" speaks for itself. You didn't need to put in how much it cost, yet you did. I think you're probably rubbing your new house in the faces of your friends and family like you're doing here which is probably why they don't want to help you out. And I don't know where you live, but 400 grand would get you a pretty nice freakin' mansion here where I am.


It doesn't matter if that's the normal price of a house in Canada, there was no need to include the price in this question. I think you just like flaunting your money and possesions in people's faces and so I think we all get why your friends and family don't want to help out. They'll probably be helping you paint the walls and you'll be like "Yeah, this was the most expensive paint they had"...I know people like you, they have a real talent of bragging without actually bragging.


Umm..and another thing--uhh, why are you even buying a house with this guy when you were just asking how much child support you would get if you left him and also you called him a jerk several times. Why are you buying a house with him then?!?!

Answer 2

I agree with mf mf mf mf... You have no business moving/buying a house with a man until hes your husband. I guarantee you will have relationship problems if you do. Your family shouldn't support this. Grow up and do the right thing.

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Where can I find out about ALBERTA CHILD CUSTODY AND?
SUPPORT LAWS? I have been a SAHM for 20 months, and lived with this guy for 3 years. He makes over 90,000 a year and tells me he is only going to pay 300 a month in child support if I leave. I think I will be getting more than that!
He is being a jerk bigtime.
He says if I leave I cannot take my son with me, (I would be satying at my dads) because I dont have a job or home, well I could go on social assistance until I get my **** together...but he says I wont get the kid. Who is right, by the way this man works out of town mostly.

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So whats the truth and what are lies? Are you on here just trying to get attention? First its 3 years and 1 child now its 5 years and multiple children. Start telling the truth or nobody should waste anymore time reading your questions!!

Answer 3

i wish i knew the answer to that one as well.
my fiance's parents bought his sister and brother a house each. and for his older brother they let him and his wife find the house they wanted and when they found it they said "why the f##k do u need such a big and beautiful house?" they had such a winge about it and yet the house was lower than the price price they said they could spend. they wanted them to buy a house like theirs that was over 30 years old and infested with cockeroaches and nasty bugs like that.... i know they were paying for it but it was actually cheaper then they expected.. his poor younger sister had to let the parents choose her house and guess what she got?
anyway i am not being a bad person to them i mean they didnt even have to buy them houses, its the nicest thing they could have done. but his brother has moved to england now and we have moved in and his parents wont visit us because the house is to big and too far away! its only five minutes.... oh well. i still love them..... but i wish i knew the answer to that question as well
ioh my god i just rread some of these answers why are people being so rediculous? who cares if u aren't married yet you love each other right? my partner and i aren't married either and we have not had 1 single problem, ( we have 1 child and 1 on the way). just because we are not a married couple don't mean **** do they realise how many people live together for the rest of their lives and never get married???? oh well good luck babe..

Answer 4

Even family can be selfish. You should try to get things done on your own since there's no help coming from your family. As for your friends, find new ones as the old ones are equally being such an A S S about helping you guys out.
Morale of this story? Don't expect anything in return when you give help to others. Cos they can get jealous and now they are showing you what for!
Good Luck .
Peace.

Answer 5

I'm not sure if you realized this, but you posted this in a parenting question forum. This has nothing to do with parenting! Not only that, but you're not asking a question - just blowing hot air.
I reported this to yahoo as abuse - hopefully other people will too.
Seriously, yahoo questions is for people that need real help. If you're serious about needing help, post this in a correct category & maybe you'll get some serious answers.
BTW- sounds like you need new friends. And a phone book for a good moving company. Have a good day.

Answer 6

I'm sorry, but I think I agree with everyone else. Listing the price makes you appear stuck up and conceited. Shux, my measly little $80,000 3 bed 2 bath 2 car garage house must be a shack!!! And, I thought I was doing "so well" for myself....

If you can afford to buy a house in this price range, why on Earth would you "need" help from someone else? If you can't afford it without "help", then it doesn't appear to me that you should be buying it.

Answer 7

My best guess would be the marriage thing. I don't know your families or their backgrounds, but they might be hesitant on something like that. Since weddings are expensive, and such an investment for you two might be a little scary for them to imagine. I would just ask them again I suppose, telling them it would really mean a lot for them to be there, and support you two. If your families support you two and your house, you're more likely to be happy with the house as well, and happy with each other. So coming from that approach, their helping you could be helpful to getting you two legally committed anyway. And I don't think you're conceited for asking for help.

Answer 8

Well, I guess it just goes to show who your real friends are, and what your family really thinks of you! I guess the next time anyone asked me (if I were in your position) for help of ANY kind, I would tell them to take a flying leap! Sorry to say, but I guess people are just selfish sometimes when it comes to their time & effort -- especially when they're not getting anything out of it personally. :-(

Just to let you know, $400K is a good rate (even for Canada) - Southern California prices for a 2-4BR house with a itty-bitty yard is over $800K (depending on where you're looking)!!!! The average right now is around $560K.

Answer 9

I think your family just sees that all of this (meaning you & your boyfriend) is going to end very soon & it seems like a waste of time for them to help you.

Just so you know if people plan to live in a house together for a long time they don't have a problem getting married first. Usually boyfriend & girlfriend don't last long. Who's gonna pay the mortgage on that baby when you are broken up?

Answer 10

And you put this on here for what? So you can prove you are conceited and have s**te family & friends? Congratulations, you succeeded. Oh and good luck with the mortgage payments... God help u if you split up! Stop rubbing their noses in the fact you have bought an average price house and maybe they'll be more willing to help.