Why is it that poor people will boast about being poor and knock?

Question

things more better off ppl have? But if you boast about having money then its insulting.
Like a friend of mine who isnt as financially fortunate will knock my stuff like my new cooking set, or new furniture or whatever.
So annoying, nobody can be happy for anyone other than themselves.
Or when I get my kid new shoes or clothes, she'll say "go to value village" or 'thats crazy" I dont say your kids clothes are ugly.

I dont brag EVER...but in my home its obvious too see nice things...my friends brag for me and its annoying, they dont do it in a nice way either, they say it like im crazy.

Answer 1

Being happy with what you have, and not being envious over other people would be a good virtue no matter what your social satus is, because it would make you end up happier no matter what.

Like the guy who isn't as financially well off, when he gets things "better than yours" and he has to brag about it, that's not going to help his financial problems go away, and he'll still be unhappy.

Answer 2

Try sensitivity to others. Poor people have had to make do with much less, and what rich people get and show off look to them like unnecessary frivolities and a wasteful expense. When interrelating with poor people, you need to be aware that showing off what are really non-essential items looks quite different to them. And is it really the right thing to do to show off your status to those less fortunate, who have to struggle to feed and clothe their families?

Comments about the expense of the things you buy for your kids are not comments about their esthetic appeal - they mean to say that they are shocked that someone would spend what you did on such a thing. There is nothing like poverty to teach you the value of things.

Maybe you should step back and take a look at what you buy and how much you pay for them. And take a look at the future, where you are old and alone: do you want to scrape by then on Social Security and a piddling pension, or do you want to shop and spend wisely and put your bucks into a decent retirement plan?

You can learn a lot from the poor, if only you will listen.

Answer 3

Along with your house question, get a life and stop ramming money down peoples throats, unless it's your own. I prob earn twice as much as a lot of my family, they know I'll help em if can and they are pleased for me. However I don't feel the need to complain on a public website about them, I'm sure they are REALLY happy for you... Not. I don't know you, and I already think off 2 questions that you have to be one of the most self centred, shallow people I have ever heard from. Try living in the real world for a change. Oh, btw - thanx for the 2 points

Answer 4

First, you ask a question about why your family/friends won't help you financially because you and your bf are about to buy a $400K home, and get upset because the people that answer your question tell you that this is conceited to list the price in your question....THEN, you post a question like this.

We "poor" people are proud because we don't need a $400K home to be happy in this life. We "poor" people know the value of a dollar and know how to budget that dollar. We "poor" people can't afford to spend that dollar if we don't even have that dollar...like the "more better off people" as you put it.

If your friends are saying that "that's crazy" when you buy your kids clothes or shoes, it's highly likely you're paying outrageous amounts of money for these items when everyone knows kids grow like grass! Did you tell them what you paid for them like you told us you were paying $400K for your new home?

Answer 5

Well I can say from experience that it is difficult to watch others with alot of nice stuff, she could just be jealous. When she tells you to go to Value Village she's probably trying to be helpful, you have to think that someone who doesn't have much has a hard time understanding those that can afford to do.

Answer 6

Not all less fortunate people act that way. She is probably just jealous or maybe you talk about yourself too much (and I don't mean that in a bad way). Sometimes it is discouraging for more fortunate people to keep talking abut their good luck and good fortune when they know they are talking about it with someone who is down on their luck and having a hard time making ends meet.

Answer 7

Yeah, you don't brag...EVER...that's why you are on here asking this question flaunting that you have more money then your friend and asking questions about your house and having to add in the fact that it is 400 thousand dollars. Get a life sweetie! We don't even know you. For all we know you are full of crap!!!

Answer 8

How is that called boasting about being poor? She's envious of cos. Don't knock her about for knocking off your stuff. She could be savy about bargain places. You should give it a try.
Peace.

Answer 9

Either, she is envious of you, or, she feels that you are too materialistic and should become more well adjusted. But since she is YOUR friend, my money is on the former. Too bad, the latter would make a better friend.

Answer 10

first off she is not your friend a Friend is someone who is happy for you.

This person is sour and no matter what her financial situation was she would either look down on you for what you don't have or do what she is doing now.

NEVER feel quilt about providing the best you can for your kids