Is it okay for a Christian to date a non-Christian? I know the Bible says it's not advisable.
2006-07-23 12:37:35 · 50 answers · asked by hmm... 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Especially for I_think_of_girls...
2 Corinthians 6:14-15
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers... What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?"
2006-07-23 12:45:49 · update #1
depends on the level of respect
2006-07-23 12:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by atheistforthebirthofjesus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a Christian... Ask yourself this question... Would you want to go to heaven, and know your boyfriend/partner/wife/husband/ etc would never join you there?
At the end of the day God loves you, & gives you the free will to choose which way to go: Your way or His way, it’s up to you!!
The Bible is quite clear about relationships: that a believer should not be yoked together with a non-believer: and the reasons as to why not!!
2 Corinthians 6:13-15 (New American Standard Bible)
13Now in a like (A) exchange--I speak as to (B) children--open wide to us also.
14(C) Do not be bound together with (D) unbelievers; for what (E) partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?
15Or what (F) harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a (G) believer in common with an (H) unbeliever?
This may sound harsh and cruel: and many may say you cannot help whom you fall in love with: But the thing is you can, if you follow the rules in the first place!!
As Christians we cannot pick and choose the scriptures we like, and want to accept: and then disregard the rest: Life would be a bed of roses if we could!! We have to take the Bible as a whole, whether we like, or agree with what we read or not!!
There are 101 reasons & areas in a relationship between two people of different faiths/beliefs, that can prove problematic... and I have seen many, many a Christian fall (including myself) over the past 22 years: due to being in a wrong relationship: and not just in the area of sex!!
So often I have seen couples start a relationship believing they can 'Bring the other to Christ'... or cope with the others beliefs etc, etc, etc... inevitably with the Christian being brought 'Down' and falling away from God & the church, rather that the other being lifted into the Kingdom!!
Remember this: The devil loves it when we disobey God & His word... and he will throw anything and everything at us, to turn us away from following Christ, make us stumble, fall back into sin, and Kill dead our witness to the world!!
2006-07-23 13:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by englands.glory 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
if u r the one saved/the christian 1st, then no. it's not ok. god says not to be unequally yoked w/a non believer.
the bible also states: do not be conformed to this world, but transformed by the renewing of your mind.
see it's like night & day are opposites, black & white, stripes & squares.
you should date a christian if u r a christian.
a non believer won't believe what u believe, it's more of a struggle.
most people think being a christian then dating a non christian that god will use u to bring the other person to christ. true, but honestly not very often at all.
you'll be pulled back to the world, tempted & inticed.
also by being the christian, you'll be judged a lot heavier then the non christian. u should know the word of god more, you're held more accountable.
so NO, it's definitely not ok in the eyes of god.
2006-07-23 19:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by lu 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well I had a very long and loving relationship with a Christian. I am an Atheist and at first our differing views didn't matter. In fact, her dad was a Vicar, and he had no problems with us dating. Unfortunately, I began to see the evils of religion coming out in her and her family. Christians (if they follow the bible closely) are very bigoted people. It would not be far fetched to call them fascists. They are above all the most hypocritical people I have ever met.
I believe the bible says that only God can judge man, but these "Christians" were so judgemental to everyone, it forced me to end the relationship. Even things like animal rights were laughed at because the BIBLE says something about humans being better in the eyes of God.
I learnt allot about Christianity from that relationship, enough to know that it is possibly the single worst religion in the history of mankind, and all religions are bad.
If you are thinking of dating a Christian I suggest you prepare for a life of bigoted, far right views and attempted indoctrination.
If you are a Christian, then I can only suggest you seriously rethink the rubbish your parents proverbially fed you as a child
2006-07-23 12:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if you are a Christian then you need to take note what the scriptures say. I'm sorry if this sounds hard but I'm going to say it any way. It looks to me like you are looking for a good excuse to get in a relationship with a non-Christian and you want Christians to back you up. Well if that's what you want then be prepared for a big dissapointment from me. I've seen too many people fall away from God because of a silly relationship.
Many years ago I fell in love with a girl and she was a Christian. We were not going out at the time but I was in love. The reason I wasn't going out with her was because The Lord had told me clearly that he didn't want me in that relationship. I had to make a choice. Thankfully I chose God. That same Girl is now not walking with the Lord. God gave me a verse of scripture and I'll share with you for you. Psalm 37:4 'Delight yourself in the LOrd and He will give the desires of your heart.' Take that scripture learn it and apply it to your life.
God Bless
2006-07-23 19:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by Smart_Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a good idea. It is called being unequally yoked. If you are a woman, you are putting your life into the hands of a man who may not believe the same things or respect your worship of God. As a wife we are to be able to trust our husbands so much that we can submit to them. If he is following God and shares the same beliefs, that will not be a problem. However if he does not believe there will often be dissention because he will not feel some things are necessary.
2006-07-23 12:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by free2praise76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you decide to date with someone, there is no point in referring Bible. Leave Bible and do what you want.
If you want to take Bible as the reference for life - you have to continue with the same partner through your life - until death. Let the partner be of any religion - but make sure a human - not an animal.
So, you are asking a question "is it sin to sin?"
2006-07-23 21:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by latterviews 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
With all the conflicts and problems that come up in the BEST of marriages, why would you want to be putting yourself in a position where you are in disagreement on one of the most important area of life? What happens when there is a crisis and you do not have prayer and God to turn to together? What about your children? Do you want them raised in that kind of a mixed influence? Are you ready to give up church involvement because he doesn't like? Or the resentment you will get when you do spend time in church or "christian things" instead of with him?
As dating is suppose to be looking for your life partner, why would you be looking at a person who will bring additional conflict and heartache into your life?
God has better then that out there for you...
2006-07-23 12:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes the Bible does say not to yoke to a non-christian, but, The Lord will lead you if the person who is with you is the right one! I was not born-again and my wife married me and I am now saved!
2006-07-23 12:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by Flip K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must admit, if I hear that someones a Christian ,it does put me off a bit, since for me the big questions are my main interest in life, and i imagine that they either aren't really interested in them ,or worse...
Ah, good to see your quote. I notice that it says 'believers', but doesn't say of what.
If it means believers in something more mysterious than a primarily material universe, or that thought is not the most profound source of wisdom and freedom ,then that will include people from all faiths and none.
2006-07-23 12:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by GreatEnlightened One 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible also tells us to be around people with like minds. Those who love Christ and The Father. Why would you date a non-christian? What would you have in common?
2006-07-23 12:43:12 · answer #11 · answered by Mittys Momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋