i broke it off with my bf because he ignored me and his 5 week old child and life is ok we have moved on new ife but i dont think it will get better what if i meet a new man who treats me the same way that he did please give me some advice on what i should do
2006-07-23 12:16:35 · 16 answers · asked by lorna s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
ignore Party Dan....he's an a$$!!! try bein on your own for some time. bond with your new one and focus on living healthy for the both of you. you definatly don't need a man in your life to be happy. my mother raised my sister and i on her own and we were quite happy. times do get tough but when they do think about your baby and try to hang out wit the girls! life will get better for you. it just seems tough now. keep your head up and try to smile. love yourself and love your baby and you will do great!
2006-07-23 12:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One - it will get better, you must belive this with all your heart.
Two - Start looking for men who are stable, responsible and have a job and really care.
Three - this is not the time to be out hanging with your friends and partying till dawn. You have a child now and that child is fully dependent upon you for everything.
Four - find a single mothers support group and make some new friends who are in the same situation your in, it will help alot.
Five - you can afford to be picky about men, you have a child to be concrened about and the man you bring into your lives must be respectful, honest, kind, caring and willing and wanting to share in your life and be a father figure to your child.
Six - DO NOT GO BACK TO YOUR OLD BF FOR ANY REASON. NO MATTER WHAT HE SAYS TO YOU!
Keep your head up and if you need to talk drop me a line, I will be more than happy to chat with you and lend a cybershoulder. Your not alone and there are plenty of peopke who care, all you have to do is ask.
Peace and love to you and your child. Call a friend and take a break, be good to yourself and trust in your heart - you did the right thing.
MJ
2006-07-23 12:35:40 · answer #2 · answered by mjh3056 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For experience, I think you will be fine, try to find some other single parents and do somethings with them, it will help keep your mind off of your ex. Also when it comes time to find someone new to spend your life with make sure they are aware of how important it is that they have a part of your life and your child's life. Also usually you know when you have a great man by the way he treats his mother and other siblings. Usually if he is close with his mother and siblings he will be a great guy. This is not always true but it seems to be that way a lot of times. Good Luck and take one day at a time. And right now live your baby and you.
2006-07-23 12:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by awesomemommy05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to stop worrying about men and be a MOM. Men will come and go but your child is your child regardless. Do your best being a single mother, and play the hand you've been given. Chasing after another man before you receive some type of counseling would not be a good idea. We (meaning most single mothers) need some type of counseling to tell us and show us what kind of relationship we need, what kind of man we need to have, etc. We can't pick the right kind obviously or we wouldn't be single, right? It's hard, I know this.. I'm raising 2 girls on my own right now.. but a man is the LAST thing on my mind. Be a mom, and then love will come when you least expect it.
2006-07-23 12:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by Sadie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats to you for taking control of your life and doing something good for you and your baby. I think that before you worry about meeting someone else though, take some time to make sure your life is headed in the direction you want it to go. Make sure you are providing a good life for your baby (I dont mean a ton of material things either). If you ask yourself, how will this affect my baby - then you will find a good guy next time. And if he turns out to be the same - say goodbye to him,too. You will find a great, wonderful man who adores you and loves your baby. Don't settle and don't rush it.
2006-07-23 12:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by pammy_6201 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, meeting a new man should be the last thing on your mind. You have a 5 month old to be concerned about. A man should not be on your mind again for a very long time.
2006-07-23 12:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life will get better then the next thing you know it you will find someone that won't ignor you and you child. just be patient. It takes a while. but you have to manage being on you own for a while. "Don't go to love let love come to you."
2006-07-23 12:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by kisha d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. DON"T SETTLE!!!! No matter what goes on, make sure who you decide to be with is who you really want to be with. They should also treat you and your child like you are the world to them. Everyone has their problems, but when it is all said and done, your self worth means everything. It takes time, too. Don't rush to find anyone. It will be there when you least expect it. GOOD LUCK SWEETIE!!!
2006-07-23 12:27:20 · answer #8 · answered by ejjeffery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking for a new man and focus on taking care of your child...have you filed for child support yet? If not you'd better do so so at least your child will be taken care of.
2006-07-26 00:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break the cycle of abuse now. Find a different kind of man all together. You owe it to yourself and your child. Good Luck Paul
2006-07-23 12:22:43 · answer #10 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋