Recently my father and I had a disagreement about my choice of staying in the military. He hates the idea that both my husband and I are planning on staying in the Army because he doesn't believe in the war and also because we have an 18 month old son. I told him that the military is the best way I can support my son for now and that I know the dangers that I can face by being in the military. Well, he completely blocked me out and threw me out of the house the day after Christmas. I was sooo angry because he ordered another family member to drive me to a hotel, but I told him I'd rather walk. So there I was trying to find a hotel, in the cold Winter, with my son in my arms. From that day on I haven't talked to anyone in my family, and nobody ever called to see if my son was doing ok. I'm guessing it's because they're all afraid of my father, and don't want to get in the middle. Should I forgive my family and leave things the way they are? I know if I try calling, he'll snap again.
2006-07-23 11:05:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't worry about it. Your decision to be part of the military to support your family is brave and your choice, not your family's. Just worry about your son and your husband. One day your family will come back and make amends. Good luck wherever the Army posts you and your husband.
2006-07-23 11:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by nobodyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I came from the family from Hell. When I was in my 40's, I decided my children were NOT going to be exposed to their racism and ignorance and viciousness, so I disowned them. Siblings; mother; and all.
It was the best thing I have ever done. I have never regretted it once. My father was in the hospital a while before he died, and I had the chance to sneak in and visit him, the only sane one in the family.
If you forgive them -- though I have no idea why you would do that, except for your own psychological benefit -- don't bother to contact them, forget their existence. You need to know they have shown that they are your worst enemies in the whole world.
The Army and your husband are your family, and I think you know what I mean by that.
Thanks for your service!
2006-07-23 12:26:22 · answer #2 · answered by retiredslashescaped1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, forgiveness is hard, but that's the only way u can start to be happy with the situation. U"Ve gotta do it for ur son, and ur husband. Ur parents will cool down eventually, and they'll call or write or something, or someone will come by to see their nephew. Just give it time, and be a happy person for ur family.
2006-07-23 11:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try, but it is ultimately up to your father. (And shame on him, by the way. He is acting like a complete coward!) It is disgusting that he is choosing his own personal philosophy on a situation he cannot control (well, barely) to judge you and block you and your family from his life.
Forgiving your family is a good thing, as it will help you deal with the situation, but it will be up to your father to put this past all of you. Try talking with him, or talk to another family member to see if they can reason with him.
2006-07-23 11:11:24 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 20:18:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely try to forgive your family, even though it won't be easy. Let your dad know that you have made up your mind, and throwing you out of the house won't make anything better for anyone. Talk rationally and quietly w/ him, even though he might yell he will probably take you more seriously.
2006-07-23 11:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by pseudonym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people should make up their own minds if they want to talk to friends or family. they shouldn't be dictated to on whom they can and can't see or talk with.hope the "dictator" sees the light soon. keep in touch with your husbands family. at least your little one will have one set of grandparent, aunts, uncles and cousins. your father sounds very controlling. that's to bad, because he and the rest of the family are missing out on allot. bless all of the troops, no matter were they are, you are all doing a great job. i hope all return safe to their own homes soon.
2006-07-23 11:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by chapes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that is wrong no matter how father feels I would think his reaction would be better be the bigger person and move on with your life. At the end of the day he will be the one to be sorry and come for you.
2006-07-23 11:12:31 · answer #8 · answered by coolhandjoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is serious!! you need to focus on what's best for you, hubby and son. therefore, make an announcement to family that your aim is in the best interest of your son and if they can't see your ambition as positive---invite them into a heart-to-heart. Please remember that your family loves you and cares about you and military is crazy at the present time.
2006-07-23 11:11:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for them and don't contact them. Let them come to you. You are doing the right thing to support your child. Your family is being stupid and are trying to change your mind by shunning you. Keep doing what you are. It is hard but if they are like that you don't need them. I believe eventually they will come around.
2006-07-23 11:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋