I've gone out on a couple of dates with this new guy (we are both 21...). We have great conversations on the phone or by text, but when we get together in person he doesn't really talk much. He also doesn't make that much eye contact when he's talking to me. I need some help with what's going on.
2006-07-23 10:58:39 · 30 answers · asked by JC 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As others have stated...give him time. Many times when a guy is with an attractive woman, there is that small inner voice telling him (she's too hot for you...you have no business being with someone so far out of your league)...this is true even if the girl isn't out of his league...he just perceives it that way (a fine complement if you ask me).
When he is on the phone or texting...the beauty is not there...
The fact that he is quick on the phone is a good sign...if he was only quick online then it would be more of a concern. Truth is...if you can talk on the phone for hours then there is something there...it is just buried...
2006-07-24 05:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by Razor_Shock 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
The eye contact thing sounds almost like a self-worth issue. Maybe he thinks he doesn't deserve to look at your eyes for some reason? Maybe he's afraid of what you'll see in his eyes? And as far as the talking thing, it takes most guys a little bit to open up and talk freely. Try finding something that he is knowledgeable about. Even if you aren't interested in it, just to get him talking, and more animated. Then you can talk about other things and it may loosen up the ice a bit. Hope this helps! If all else fails, you can always ask him in a text, what his deal is :p
2006-07-23 18:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by kaloptic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way. I can write a novel almost over email, but once I get in front of the girl, I clam up. I have been seening a girl now for about a month and it's getting better. I say give him some time. Make it a point to get together and talk, so he can get to know you and you him. Conversation will get much easier.
2006-07-23 18:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you are too pretty and he is nervous or something. Sometimes I have the same problem. Plus when you are online or on the phone, you have more time to think about things to talk about. When you are together, there is a lot of pressure about what will happen next. Maybe he doesn't wanna say the wrong thing to make you uninterested,
2006-07-23 20:12:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is easy to talk on the phone some people feel lose and can talk about anything but in person people can be very shy when they meet for the first couple of times i would not worry but if it keeps going on ask whats up and see where it goes from there good luck
2006-07-23 18:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by shaq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat as you, but my guy tries to talk to me in person and keeps eye contact with me, but I don't look at him. I think that he is nervouse when he is there with you in person. Just think of it like how us girls are if we are sitting next to a cute guy we get nervouse when they try to talk to us and it's hard to keep eye contact, but on the phone you don't have to look at one another and it's easier to talk it goes the same for texting.
2006-07-23 18:03:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is nervous. You can try to give him time and try to make it as comfortable as possible. I can see from your picture that you are very attractive, and as a guy that can be intimidating sometimes. If time goes on and you have nothing to say to each other you will have to move on. After all there is nothing worse than awkward silence.
2006-07-24 02:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by Roger S M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am tha same way as your date, but for me it's about learning about my date, prospect girlfriend.
Relief the tension by smiling a lot and give a quick kiss and hug everytime you see him.
Take the inniciative, ask him out!
2006-07-24 17:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by resiste_lfc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been this guy before - he is just very shy. Especially when talking to a hottie like you (I am basing that on your avatar photo). He just needs to be given a little time - don't give up on him!!! I had that happen to me a lot, and it hurts.
2006-07-23 18:05:33 · answer #9 · answered by Steak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got personal communication issues...thus why he talks better by phone or text. Is he like this when you introduce him to friends? Yikes.
2006-07-24 17:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋