heres the deal. one of my neighbors that lives across the road is having a birthday party. I cannot atand this person, she flirted with my husband a couple years ago when i first met her when i was new to the neighborhood. I told her at that time i was not interested in a friendship with her, and she has been known to make catty remarks about me since then. I dont speak to her, i ignore her. well, she is having this party, AND SHE INVITED MY INLAWS(they live around the corner from us)AND THEY WENT! She doesnt even know them. Am I wrong to be pissed as hell at their lack of loyalty to me?
2006-07-23 10:29:17 · 25 answers · asked by sangellai 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i'm not mad at her, i dislike her intensely regardless of what she does. I am pissed because they went without a second thought. I know what SHE is up to, she wants to piss me off, that is just childishness. But family should stick together, no matter what. And no, i dont want to go to her party. I've made it plain from the beginning that I want nothing to do with her.
2006-07-23 10:40:42 · update #1
No you have no right to ask the in laws who they can and can't see. If this neighbor bothers you so much then move. Sounds like a no win situation.
Of course you could be reading the situation all wrong. Keep your enemies close.
Good luck!
G.G.
2006-07-23 10:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are playing right into the neighbor-from-hell's hands and doing exactly what she wants you to do. If I were you, I'd kill her with kindness! Start waving as you go by with a big smile. She'll wonder what you're up to. I wouldn't let this woman upset my life and yes, you are over-reacting..and acting like an insecure, needy person. As far as the in-laws go...so what? Ask them if they had a good time. Stop falling for the game she is baiting you for....and be more of a woman than she is...you'll never have to worry about that man taking a walk across the road.
2006-07-23 10:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming your in-laws were aware of the situation between you and your neighbor, and I also will assume they spoke to you about this invitation before they attended.
If that is the case, it was extremely insensitive and in very bad taste. I do understand how you feel, and I also would be extremely angry, hurt and betrayed. What does your husband think of all this? By the tone of your question, I gather that your husband does not want to be involved, which is a shame, but many men are cowards in that way. They don't want to take sides against their parents, but it is their obligation to put you first and defend you against hurt feelings, whether or not he agrees with it.
I feel for you. It is a tough situation. In response to your actual question, no I do not think you are overreacting. I do think you should take some time, however, to calm down before you act on it. That way you can adjust your perspective and handle it with class, which is more than we can say about your neighbor and in-laws.
Good luck!
2006-07-23 10:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by art-nerd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overreacting is an understatement. You are acting like a spoiled brat. Your in laws do not owe you any loyalty. I am sure they can see that you are out of control. I imagine you make their son miserable and they would be glad to be rid of you.
Honestly you are making too much of a big deal over this. The world is full of people you will not like but you still have to live with them.
Heck I bet you don't like me for my comments.
Time to grow up sister!
Rat
2006-07-24 03:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 06:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What this woman does is none of your business unless you choose to make it your business. Personally I don't mingle with close neighbors, it is like going out with someone you work with. Eventually there will be problems and then you are stuck looking at them everyday.
If she is doing things to piss you off then it is because you are reacting to what she is doing. Stop that and things will settle down. If there is nothing to irriatate then the irritation goes away.
2006-07-23 10:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being upset is very understandable..Question is though,,Do they know the battle you have had withthis woman? If not then you may need to sit them down and explain things to them and how it made u feel when they went...if they did not know then they will more than likely apologize for goin ....I have had women do that to me also but I have found out being angry will not make things better fo r you...many people will come into our lives to try to destroy it ..That is where trust in our spouse comes in...One day it will all come back around to her...Hope this helped..God bless ya
2006-07-23 10:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by glowworm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you don't like her, which given the circumstances is quite understandable, doesn't mean that everyone else has to dislike her. Yes your inlaws are your family but they are entitled to like and associate with whoever they want, regardless of how you feel.
2006-07-23 16:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care? You've already told her you didn't want a friendship with her and now your saying she's not being loyal to you?!?!?! Did you ever think maybe she's just trying to be nice? Meet people in the neighborhood? Sounds to me like maybe your just jealous that YOU weren't invited.
2006-07-23 10:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by york_hellen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loyalty? Did you ask them NOT to go? Actually I'd want them to go. Have them eat up as much $$ from the person you're at odds with.
So calm down and enjoy the rest of the day....
2006-07-23 10:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋